How quickly did you fall in love?

[callmehannahbaker]

Asking for a friend... obviously

This has turned chirpy

Have you fallen in love op?

Honestly, I fell so slowly it would nice to know!

I'm well on my way to being in love. I have never been so comfortable to just be me.

Was with my boyfriend for 8 months and one day he called round and as we stood talking at my back door, he pulled me to him and said he loved me. He emphasised love when he said it and often still says it in the same tone now after 3 years together.

I was 6 weeks out of an abusive marriage when we started seeing one another. He is by far the best boyfriend I've ever had and I'm so glad I took the jump.

He is a really good person and so kind.

I've never felt myself with anyone before but with him it's so easy.

I wish we could go back and do it all again. I feel so loved.

Good luck op!

I'm now in my 50's & what my experiences have taught me that it's lust for the first 12 months.

Offred that was exactly my exh who turned out to my shock & horror to be an EA Narcissist!

The only thing I have realised is that you can't have simplistic views of humans, or relationships. Your ltb is just an opinion, from one person who obviously has their own experiences.

You can read all the advice on the internet, every tome on human psychology, and be clued up on every red flag going, your experience is yours. For every love at first sight there will be a narcissist/psycopath.

It's wise to keep your guard up, but enjoy the falling in love for what it is. Some random says it's a red flag to fall in love at 7 months? Wtf do they know? They are not the arbiter of love.

I'm going to happily let it happen. I'm always going to be cautious as that's how I've taught myself to be now.
It's really quite nice though. I know he feels the same without needing to discuss it.

Within a couple of weeks. I absolutely knew and so did DH.

I don't think that's unusual.

We very vaguely knew each other already but he walked into a room ours eyes met and I felt like I'd been struck by lightening. He moved in three weeks later and we've been married now for ten years.

I met dh a few months after coming our of a ltr with my previous boyfriend. We just clicked, and I knew very quickly that he was the person I would spend my life with.

I think I'd known him for about 8 weeks when we told each other "I love you". We were engaged after 6 months and have now been married for 23 years. We are still in love, although obviously it's different now from 24 years ago.

I do wonder how much we re-write our experiences regarding falling in love when we know the outcome .

I.E. If it grew into something bigger, we are more likely to say the love came sooner, if it didn't, we are more likely to call it lust or infatuation.

For me, I'm not sure. I have been in love four times, but with three of them in the early stages I find it hard to unpick whether it was actual love or a great neediness on my part, as it was very insecure. The fourth time was unrequited so hard to know if it actually can be called love or not without it being reciprocal.