Over?

[cannotdecide]

DH and I been together since we were 17. Usual ups and downs, we have two lovely kids, DD 10, DS 8. I love him and he is a good man. I love the family life with all four of us together. He works hard and helps at home more than many - cooking, washing. A silly thing happened tonight, I posted a photo of him doing a sport event on his FB timeline saying "love this x". He had done a charity thing with mates, most had put a phot up. He hadn't, he's shy, we looked a the pics together, he liked a couple, I told him i was uploading one and assumed he was happy with that. He then went upstairs and when he came down (I'd posted the photo) he was angry telling me he would never do that etc...How dare I put up a photo without his permission. All In front of my elderly parents who are staying for the first time in 6 months. I don't know whether to brush it off leaning his stressful work week or accept it may reflect that we are not succeeding as couple. My heart says for the kids and us we need to work it out my head says I may never truly be happy with him. He just feels so negative and pessimistic. He has always been gloomy and all this time I think that's him - but maybe another woman could lift him, maybe someone else can make him happy. And maybe someone there is better suited to me? Truly heartbroken and feeling disrespectful to type that....I know myself and I will be in exactly this same position in 2 years, or more

I think he overreacted. Why do you think he was so upset by it?

He has overreacted.
Has he apologised? Can you talk to him about it?
My first thought, was he worried it's made it obvious he's married and wasn't keen to have his wife posting about him.

Could he be depressed?

Big overreaction. Why doesn't he want you posting a pic of your husband on FB? It's perfectly normal. Is he trying to hide his personal circumstances? My ex did this. Turns out he was having an emotional affair with someone at work and didn't want her knowing we were away together.

If it's a genuine dislike of putting pics on FB he is overreacting. Why would you think one argument is the end of your marriage? That seems like an overreaction too

He just feels so negative and pessimistic. He has always been gloomy

This isn't about Facebook really is it?

I understand, my OH is the same and the better and more positive I feel in myself the wider the gap seems between us. I used to think of us as ying and yang, my light in his darkness but sometimes it's just exhausting.

It is really to huge an issue to give an opinion on given the little information you have here but I will say this: his moods are not your fault and not your responsibility. He will not suddenly become a happier person if you go and there is no-one on this planet that can make him a happier person just by being in his life. Think of your own happiness and if you will be a better, stronger and more positive person without him dragging you down and let that drive your decision.