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On line dating status

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1DAD2KIDS · 28/09/2017 18:01

On OLD sites there is a box for relationship/marital status. I am sort of debating what to put? I am recently completed my divorced but don't like the negative connotations of the divorced status. It just doesnt feel right. After all you could be in a long term relationship for dacades and as soon as you split your both single. Why cant people who have been married be single too? A clean start as that former relationship is history and it is the future your looking to. Why must divorcees have to carry status baggage of a former married and non married people just become single again. I want to put single on my profile. That how I feel, a fresh start. But worried that people may view me as dishonest. Of course it's no secret and happy to say I was once married.

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Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt · 30/09/2017 00:13

I would never message a guy who's put single in his status! I want a guy who's been committed in a relationship, understands what divorce entails so he 'gets it' and doesn't come across as scared of marriage. I'm 51 and for me a single guy in the age range I'm looking at suggests player or someone feckless with relationships. I actively filter men out on this point! He can tell me why his marriage failed later. I'll make a judgment on him based on how he describes the marriage breakdown but not on the fact that he's divorced.

1DAD2KIDS · 30/09/2017 05:18

Emilybrontescorsett I know it just seems bizarre.

Beentherelefthimgotthetshirt at least at my age it's not uncommon to find single people and single parents (after all we were the high teen pregnancy generation). But you and others have deffinitatly given me food for thought on the idea that a divorced status may be a positive thing.

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