I keep posting here hoping for some sort of clarity, but never quite achieving it. Me and DH have a difficult relationship atm, of which I often get told is my fault and if I could just be a decent wife it would all be ok.
That's not my issue this time though. We have 2year old DD who is very attached to me. This upsets DH who says he feels pointless and replaceable. I get that it's difficult for him and I try to be understanding. My problem is he fact that I am not bloody surprised as he doesn't often do much in the way of parenting.
Yesterday we had a fight. We each have an afternoon off work to spend time with DD. I decided to take her to an attraction in the local town. Tell DH what we have done for the afternoon and he gets really upset. Apparently it should have been a family thing to do. That would be fine except he takes her out on his afternoons often enough and I never have a go at him for it. It was somewhere we have been before, and he can always go again. Then he started getting into how I'm always taking her out without him (I take her to soft play when I am on my own with her sometimes), and I am generally just totally thoughtless, not caring about how much I hurt him. He's fed up of being the only parent to discipline her (he's not, he's just not around to see when I do. And also he is stricter than I am, so he reacts to something before I would therefore when we are together he is automatically telling her off before I do). My biggest problem is that I don't know how to fix this, and he doesn't seem to want to actually do anything - like put her to bed, get her dressed in the morning etc etc. All the stuff that I do day in and day out and are the reason she is more attached to me.
I'm not even sure what I'm asking, but feel free to flame if I am being an insensitive bitch.