Feel like I've been drop kicked in the stomach

[Sohurt17]

Even though it was my desicion to end it, he's now met someone else and wants to split our things, something I've been asking him to do for months but he kept dragging his feet. All of a sudden we need to do it NOW.

I'm shocked at how bereft I feel. And I know it's petty but when we first met, he was a shadow of the person he is now...and SHE gets to benefit the improved version. As I said, I know it's petty.

How do I stop feeling so crushed?

You ended it for a reason. Remind yourself what that reason is - and that you're better off without him hard though it is to see him moving on.

I ended things with someone today. I'm going to miss him, but like Rather says, I'll keep reminding myself of the reasons why. Excellent advice.

He might look much improved, but I bet there will be enough of the old him still there to exasperate his new partner. You're well off out of it.

Thank you for responding.

I know you're all right, it did end for good reasons and I've got to keep remembering them.

Buttery I don't know. She's quite a lot younger than me and seems fiercely competitive. I have a feeling she's out to prove how much better she is than me. But I don't want to even go there. He is in the past and I just want to move forward with my life.

I think I'm doubly sad because soon after we broke up (8 months ago), I got together with the love of my life who I'd been secretly in love with for years and for the first time we were single at the same time. But it didn't work out. He cares about me but doesn't want a serious relationship. I was devastated. So this is all coming at the same time.