Tell me honestly about Tinder

[FreshFigs]

I've been trying various OLD sites. Really don't want to part with much cash as I'm dubious about all of them frankly. But I am prepared to put some trawling hours in.

I sort of ditched Tinder because it still seems pretty hook-up-y to me. But a couple of people have said it's changed.

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My daughter (30s) met her curent partner there. They are very happy together. All OLD sites have people looking for hook ups, but some genuinely are looking for partners. Have you read the dating thread? Lots of advice/experiences on there

I know two people ( girls ) that have met and have good relationships from tinder , these are the only two I know use it

Everyone I know who uses it does so primarily to have casual sex. Great if that's what you want. I downloaded it when I was single a couple of years ago... it was not for me. A lot of cheesy lines and dick pics.

Actually I do know one person who met her boyfriend through tinder, but they both meant for it to just be a hook up in the first instance.

I have been pleasantly surprised - lots of matches so far, roughly half initiated a conversation. 4 where the conversation flowed well and warranted swapping numbers for chat via whatsapp. 2 have led to dates so far (1 in pipeline, 1 tapered off, just not for me). 1st one is a really nice guy, real sweetie but perhaps a little too sweet for me and he's really busy at the moment so we've paused it. 2nd is a bit more exciting, but again a real gentleman. Things have gone far very quickly, though he's not pushy in the way other guys I've met in RL are. We're keeping it fairly casual though without trying to take up too much emotional space (1st guy did this and that was difficult for me).
Only one slightly uncomfortable chat which was just inappropriate and made me think this guy was a bit predatory and wanted ONS.

The majority I've been surprised are pleasant, polite, interested in your life/hobbies and very respectful. Enough for me not to mind too much when the odd naughty one slips through - don't mind a little flirt while I'm sitting on my sofa on a quiet night

OK - I'm also concerned about how it links to Facebook and had set up a fake ID for it, but the name is stupid. Should I do it linked to my actual Facebook?

I met my boyfriend on tinder nearly two years ago. There are a lot of idiots on there but you can filter them out pretty quickly. I had my own rubric for filtering people at photo stage, you'll have to develop one too, e.g:

1. no bathroom selfies
2. no drugged tigers
3. no pictures where they've redacted their child's face (just pick a different picture!)
4. no one who has all group shots
5. no one who has obviously cropped a woman out of the shot
6. no one who says aggressive stuff like 'no time wasters' in their bio Etc, etc You'll find you get 'tinder fatigue' after a while, so you may have to give it a break for a bit then come back (my boyfriend was part of the fourth cohort, I think). It has an unfair reputation for being a hook up site full of dickheads. There is that element of course, but there are some genuinely nice men on there too. My very first tinder date is still a friend. And my boyfriend is lovely. Hands down best relationship I have ever had.

Good luck!

I have looked on the dating thread - it's was very long and I couldn't find what I needed quickly, having to scroll through so many pages.

Mumsnet need to set up a new category heading for dating really.

I set up a fake Facebook for mine but then you have to go the trouble of explaining to your date that your name is not your real name, which frankly, would put me off someone, if the situation were reversed. Most people link it to their actual Facebook - it's just the app's way of weeding out catfishes i suppose though obviously it's not foolproof

I tried it. No cheesey lines, no dick pics, no hook ups, one date which has led to a relationship! So worked very well for me!

I went on many tinder dates which conformed to what you have said but I started looking at it a different way. That i wasn't looking for anything but making a new friend etc I was under no pressure to hook up so was just happy going out for a drink. This was after I felt pressured to hook up and getting used.
When I changed my attitude I went for a drink with a guy and everything changed. We met in august and got engaged the following year and moved in together at Easter (I moved county) we get married in 6 months and he's taken my daughter in as our daugher.

There are diamonds in the rough, dp sensed I had a guard up, that I wasn't willing to disclose my whole life story straight away he said this made him more intrigued

It seems to be full of adds now which is annoying!

I met my partner through mysinglefriend.com as I found tinder to be full of people after sex. But on the flip side, my friend has just married someone she met on tinder!

I met my partner through mysinglefriend.com as I found tinder to be full of people after sex. But on the flip side, my friend has just married someone she met on tinder!

I probably wouldn't set up a fake account- but my general rule is not to do something that would put you off if the other person if they did it as well.

Oh and I married and have 2 kids to a guy I met on tinder!

You can set up tinder with a mobile phone number now. No need for Facebook.

Met oh on Tinder nearly three years ago...married nearly three months ago, came back from honeymoons in the Caribbean today 😊 it will either work or it wont, like every other form of introduction.