Physical abuse

[Blackcatonthesofa]

AIBU (posting for traffic) to ask you about the following.

My friend has been hit by her partner last week. I feel that she should leave him because it might happen again and I feel that this is a dealbreaker.

1. Can abuse just happen once?
2. What should I say to her? How can I help?

If you ask Mumsnet to move this to Relationships, you will get some better answers.
Domestic violence sometimes happens just once, if her partner feels bad about what he did and is looking for ways to fix it she might be ok.
Otherwise, it usually carries on and escalates.

How much support you offer depends how involved you want to get. If she leaves, he may turn on you, and its worth doing some research and preparation for your own safety as well as hers.
Refuge and Womens Aid are both helpful, and theres some info here;
www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk/support-a-friend-or-family-member-experiencing-domestic-violence.aspx

Thank you for your answer. I am going to read the link now and I have reported my post to move it.

Yes it CAN happen just once (I have experience of this). I think it very much depends on the circumstances and attitude of the person who has committed the act and their willingness to help.

What you can do to help is provide support and a listening ear. Make her aware of the help available and support her whatever she decides.

Hi there,
We have moved this thread to relationships and hope you find the answers you seek there.