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Still trying to control...

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RyVeeta · 27/09/2017 19:20

Stbxh decided that he'd go for a walk today. Despite non mol order he got someone to bring him to the (very) small town where I live and he had a walk in the local green space followed by a drink in the pub we use, all the time letting (adult but very vulnerable) dd know what he was doing and where he was.
This feels very much like I'm in your space and there's fuck all you can do about it. It's also a bit scary. Blackmailing bastard also told her he'd cry if he saw me. Bet he didn't tell his girlfriend that!

Sorry, letting off steam and yes, being a bit concerned and worried by this latest move.

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sparklymarion · 27/09/2017 19:21

I'd be reporting his action to the police. Even if it's just for their records

ChicRock · 27/09/2017 19:23

Report to police/solicitor.

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RyVeeta · 27/09/2017 19:25

I had thought about it, but it clearly states not allowed within 100m, which obviously it wasn't. It is intimidating though. On top of that, he's clever. It was with a group supporting people with mental health problems (he is one of said group, not support) and he told dd it was his suggestion, but of course he could look like the victim if I say anything. This is why I get frightened. I think I might mention it to my WA worker. I assume my MARAC is still in place.

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DJBaggySmalls · 27/09/2017 19:26

You have a non molestation order and I think that breaches it. He went to some trouble to get to where you live, and involved your DD. Its best to report it.

Gilead · 27/09/2017 20:17

I've emailed my WA worker and I think I'll ring 101 in the morning. Thank you.

Gilead · 27/09/2017 20:25

Damn, forgot to name change. Stressed!

Gilead · 28/09/2017 11:03

Okay, WA worker dealing with it. I tried, but can't. Got too tearful and felt sick every time I picked up the phone. Was also worried that I'd be perceived as a petty cow and being difficult, therefore not taken seriously.
I'm still really upset and distressed this morning, the thought that I could bump into him anywhere makes me feel very unsafe. I had at least hoped the small place in which I lived was safe, obviously not. I'm very weepy and can't seem to snap out of it. This has really knocked me sideways, which considering I didn't actually bump into him, is ridiculous.

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