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First Date.

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1DAD2KIDS · 27/09/2017 19:00

I am going on a first date. We live in different cities about 30-40 mins drive apart. She has offered to come to my city for our first date. That is great for me because my mum has offered to babysit the kids so it would mean I am earlier home so my mum can go home. So should I accept or say let's meet somewhere half way?

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1DAD2KIDS · 27/09/2017 19:01

She is kid free that night

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stardust18 · 27/09/2017 19:05

She offered, so I think that's fine

Justdontknow4321 · 27/09/2017 19:09

If she's offered I think it's fine..

Does she have kids as well, they may be with there dad so that's why she can come to you. If she's getting someone to keep an eye on them like you are maybe offer half way just so you seem like your making the effort as well

Justdontknow4321 · 27/09/2017 19:10

Just seen she is kid free.

I think it's fine, let her come to you if she's offered. If it was me and I offered then I wouldn't mind. If it bothered me I would offer to meet in the middle ...

TBH just over a half hour drive isn't far.

Good luck.

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1DAD2KIDS · 27/09/2017 19:12

I think they are with their dad by the sound of it. I think they get on well and he lives near. Probably a 50/50ish parententing thing.

The thought did occur to me (as I massively overthink things) that if I said meet half way it may look a bit like I have something to hide since she offered?

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cupcakesmakeyouhappy · 27/09/2017 19:14

You could just say...
I don't meeti g half way, if that's easier for you. If not, now worries, you are welcome to come to me, your choice :)
Good luck!

TheNewMrs · 27/09/2017 19:14

Yeah I think it's fine for her to come you this time, as she offered Smile

If it goes well and leads to a second date would you be able to make arrangements to travel to her next time?

Justdontknow4321 · 27/09/2017 19:31

Nope I don't think offering to meet halfway makes you look like your trying to hide something at all

Ellisandra · 27/09/2017 19:35

You're over thinking it.
Personally, if I'm driving 15 mins I'll drive 30. Half way isn't really a massive time saving.
Just say "that's kind of you to do the travelling - are you sure, because I'm happy to meet half way if not?" and go with whatever her reply is.

LexieLulu · 27/09/2017 19:37

Just say "if you don't mind, next time I'll come your way"

Don't worry too much xx

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1DAD2KIDS · 27/09/2017 19:47

Too be honest I am really chuffed she has offered to come to me. In my mind that shows a certain amount enthusiasm and effort. I have often felt the expectation is for me to come to them.

At the end of the day she wouldn't open with a flat out offer to come to me if she wasn't totally happy doing so?

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Mrsjohnmurphy · 27/09/2017 19:51

I always liked going to meet someone on their turf tbh, probably because my town is an utter shit hole Grin

Justdontknow4321 · 27/09/2017 21:12

Nope, but wouldn't offer if she wasn't happy with it.

Go for it

Justdontknow4321 · 27/09/2017 21:13

SHE wouldn't*

Bloody phone

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1DAD2KIDS · 28/09/2017 18:03

Well I have agree to meet her on home soil. Thinking maybe a country pub her side of my city as more convenient transportation wise.

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1DAD2KIDS · 04/10/2017 21:44

We are all set for the date tomorrow. I have chosen a pub technically in my city but her side with good parking. I think that's compromise.

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