Is your DH popular? Does it matter?

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My DH is lovely - so helpful and loving and I just adore him.

Have noticed he doesn't make friendships easily - he is a very hard working man but he does have a hobby - he has many acquaintances through this hobby but I've noticed some of the others have a little 'click' - tag each other on fb etc but DH is often not included - not that I think he would care - his priorities are us, work and his hobby but I wonder why he's not seen as part of the 'gang' - is that something to be concerned about or is that normal for men around the age of 40?

Close friendships are so important to me but maybe different for men than women!

I do nt think it's possible to generalise, if it does nt bother your DP then it's probably best not to raise it.

I don't think it matters to be honest. If he is happy in himself that's fine, and I think it is normal.

My DH has some friends but is not part of a gang. I think that may be due to the fact he is quite a homebird ie. He'd rather be at home or with his siblings than 'out with the boys'.

My husband has alot of friends. He makes friends really easily. It's not something I think particularly matters unless they are out too often. Or not out very much and aren't understanding of your friendships or are sad they don't have a better social life.

My husband is very well regarded by the people he knows well, but he is a shy person and it takes him a long time to get to know people, plus he keeps himself to himself. Everyone is an individual.

I'm wondering if my husband has written this about me but changed the sexes! 'popularity' isn't remotely important to me personally. I value my relationships with my family and have people I do a hobby with but I'm genuinely not bothered about socialising with them. I'm perfectly happy as I am!

Not everyone is super sociable for feels the need for lots of friends. Mine makes friends easily and has a circle of close friends he's known for years, but he's self-employed with no time for hobbies or other activities, so he's by himself all day. We don't see friends except occasionally on the weekend as our close friends now live far away and equally are really busy and have non-traditional work hours. So though he has good friends he's known forever, he only sees them a few times a year when they can coordinate it, but they are genuinely good friends. I think he would like to see more of them, but that's just life. I'm the opposite. I have friends I've known for years too, but I don't make new friends easily (because I genuinely don't really want to and it isn't much of a priority for me). It's lovely to talk with and see friends when I do (again, it's a few times a year when we can travel to visit each other, though we keep in touch via email, text, etc.). But I don't feel much yearning for it and it's not a big deal in my life. I generally think after a certain age most people don't make many new close friends, most don't have time, others just are happy with the circles they're in, family, etc. So I don't think it's out of place. Maybe you are just more social than he is, so it seems odd to you.

All that tagging and clicking on social media I find a terrible, superficial bore. Though I know some people love it and find it both enjoyable and validating. I am a woman.