New to any form of dating.

[Nothingwhitty]

I'm 27 and I've been single for coming up to 3 years after a 10 year relationship with a tit.

Anyway, I joined Tinder in July please don't judge but I am not at all attractive so the chances of anyone coming up to me ever or trying to get to know me from my looks is very slim.

Anyway, I matched with someone who superliked me in July, we have been texting since, even when he was abroad. He keeps saying 'we will meet up on Saturday, I'll take you for a date' then nothing, radio silence from about 7pm Friday - 3pm ish Sunday.

I don't really have the bottle to say anything to him but I know I need to, what can I say? I know he doesn't owe me anything but I also want to know if he just wants a 'texting buddy' rather than meeting me in person?

Does the fact he goes silent of a weekend mean something other than he's not interested in my? I wouldn't blame him but I'd rather know.

Any advice is welcome.

I don't even think what I've wrote makes sense I apologise, I can't articulate what I want to say well at times (I've name changed btw)

People who disappear at the weekend aren't really single, sorry :)

I mean sorry

Nobody will judge you for being on tinder!! Please also stop putting yourself down, you've done it twice in 1 post. To be honest he sounds like he wants a text buddy rather than proper dating. What time do you text in the week? Have you actually spoken to him on the phone?

It's like all day which made me think if he has a wife/girlfriend he wouldn't do?
No we haven't spoke on the phone but that's my fault, I get anxious about talking on the phone which I realise is immature.

Nothingwhitty hi :) don't put yourself down. Tinder and dating sites are very popular nowadays. That is a very long time to be texting. Does he ever mention meeting? How far away does he live?

Please OP do not waste your time with this person - he has no intention of meeting you - he's keeping you dangling. Do you stay in at the weekend hoping to hear from him - does he ask what you have done at the weekend or do you ask him.
Why don't you join some meet up groups or walking groups or whatever you fancy trying and meet real people - people that will get to know YOU - we aren't just looks - you can meet men and women and get some friends. Please don't waste your time with this person - he's stringing you along for whatever reason. Good luck

He lives about 25 mins away from me. Yeah he asks to meet but then nothing happens.

He asks how my weekend has been.

Do I say anything or just block and delete?

It seems a bit strange!
Usually if someone wants to date you, they're eager to meet.
If you have arranged dates and he doesn't follow through, then I would just ignore or say it's been nice chatting but you're not looking for a pen pal! Thats what I would do anyway :)

It does seem strange as others have said maybe he's in a relationship.My sons have been on tinder and bumble in fact my son met his girlfriend who is lovely by the way on bumble. Hope you meet someone nice but sounds like you'll need to look a bit further x

Thanks everyone.

I think I'll just say I'm not looking for a pen pal. Hopefully I won't get a barrage of abuse like I've seen from some users.

It sounds like he's either married or in a relationship. Possibly works away from home therefore can chat during the week and then radio silence at weekends. Sorry, OP.

I was in a similar situation a few years ago - met a guy online but he always had excuses as to why we couldn't meet. Red flags were waving like mad and I found out he actually had a girlfriend, cue a block and delete from me.

It's not as if you live far from each other either, 25 minutes is nothing.

First rule of dating for a woman:

Everyman is a two faced, lying twat, after a quick shag on the side...... Until he's proved his worth to you, and treats you with respect and honesty....