Have I made a decision I might come to regret?

[HoundOfTheBasketballs]

I have been involved in a FWB scenario for about three months, with someone I've known for a long time. We have so much fun together, I don't think anyone makes me laugh quite like he does. But it is very casual. And I don't think we really could ever have a proper future in a relationship.

So, I met someone else. We've been out a couple of times and I really like him. He seems really keen - more so than me.
I realised it's not fair on him, or my FWB to see them both at the same time, so I had an honest and upfront conversation with my FWB tonight. He came round and I told him that this would be the last time we could hang out like this.

We've just had the loveliest evening together and he's gone home. As he was leaving, he said, "promise me, if this guy's a dickhead, that you'll call me."

Now he's gone and, in spite of how sure I've felt about my decision all day, I'm crying and wondering if I've made the wrong decision! I haven't, have I?

Hound - it's normal. What you feel
normal. Your FWB is a friend, in addition to the benefits bit. And you like him and have developed a certain level of intimacy.
Of course, you are sad to have it end. (At least for now)

If it's a relationship that you want - and that new guy has potential. And you said you also like him - GIVE him a chance. See there it all goes, if anywhere.
And, as your friend said - if that doesn't work - he'll be there and you can continue.

Also - none of these decisions are firm commitments and they are not set in stone.
You can change your mind later and go back to your previous arrangement.

Good luck!!!!

I think you need to give things a go with the new guy. Your FWB sounds like a good bloke but, he's obviously not after long term what you are

Have you posted about this FWB before? It sounds familiar.

If so then you have to try new man, you have developed feelings for FWB that aren't mutual and it's clear it's going no where.

Hope new man is lovely x

Your FWB may be a nice guy but doesn't want a LTR with you. He wants to stay as back up.

Give it a go with new guy.

Thanks everyone. The usual sage advice and reassurance I've come to love from these boards.
I know I think deep down I've done the right thing. If what he was offering was right or enough for me, I'd never have wanted to go on a date with the new guy.
I'm going to miss him though, as I guess I would if I lost any friend, with benefits or without.
And I suppose if he had have wanted us to be any more than FWB he had the chance to say so last night, and he didn't.

I suppose if he had have wanted us to be any more than FWB he had the chance to say so last night, and he didn't.

^ This. You're absolutely right.

I think the FWB doesn't want to lose you, likes you more than you might think, but doesn't want to stand in your way if you feel someone else is better for you.

I think you made the right decision. If FWB wanted to enter into a relationship then last night was the chance to tell you. I think you were right to end it and give this other fella a chance. Hope it works out for you

I just wanted to say I think you've been very decent! Good luck with new chap