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Am I being mean?

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lifesteeth · 07/04/2007 11:55

It's my DP's birthday next week, he wants to book the week off work and spend it staying with me. Thing is neither of us have a car (well he does but it's his mums so we'll be stuck in all week doing sod all. All the other times he's stayed with us for more than a few days he's spent his time watching men and motors, sleeping in and pratting about on my pc or playing the playstation. I can't really afford to feed another mouth at the moment either (especially since he eats more than the 3 of us put together) and I also start a new job the week after so I want a stress free week the week before.

Am I being unreasonable if I tell him I don't want him to come for the full week?

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Ifonlyhewould · 07/04/2007 12:03

I get the impression from all of your other posts comcerning DP that he's not such at DP at all and you don't really like him that much Do you really want to be with him at all? He does seem to wind you up the wrong way, no matter what he does. I must admit, i am beginning to feel sorry for the guy, and that's just not me!!

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lifesteeth · 07/04/2007 12:06

I know, I'm starting to feel bad about it myself. We did break up once before but he kept on at me saying he would change etc, I left it 6 months before I started to believe that he had changed and I gave him another chance and he's just the same as he always was...albiet he hides more from me now.

I really am trying to see him in a more positive light, he does have his good points but everything he does irritates the hell out of me and I don't know why. I'm a very irritable person at best so maybe it's me and not him that's the problem.

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Ifonlyhewould · 07/04/2007 12:12

Well to be honest, he does sound a nice guy, despite his phone obsession . He soes seem to want to be with you. But it does seem a little unfair of you to keep putting him down for trying his best. He really is in a n win situation with you. Maybe you should think about whether you really want to be with him fullstop. I am wondering if you are looking for an excuse, a reason, to drop him anyway but are finding it difficult because he is such an ok bloke. He doesn's have to be an a* for you to dump him. You are allowed to walk away from a nice man if you don't think it's right for you. You can't fit a round peg in a square hole

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lifesteeth · 07/04/2007 13:12

Thanks for your replies, I appreatiate it

I just don't know what it is... Everyone thinks he's a great guy but there are so many issues

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chocolateface · 07/04/2007 13:17

Indon't think youthink he's so great. Do you really want to be with him atall?

Ifonlyhewould · 07/04/2007 13:17

Well, maybe you were right when you said they were your issues and not his. He does seem to get up your nose quite a bit

Don't spoil his birthday though, its lovely that he wants to spend it with you. If you really don't think you can spend just a weel with him then there's really not much hope for a long term future together.

Good luck with it

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