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Should I be suspicious?

31 replies

Nicol06 · 07/04/2007 07:03

I don't know why, but dh has a password lock on his mobile phone. He works for a national corporation as a state manager, so he spends a lot of time dealing with people and I'm sure gets lots of messages & emails to his phone. I can understand having it on there for security reasons, but at home on the weekends..?! I was looking for something before and found his phone turned on, but locked - and you need a password to access it. Would you be suspicious?

I know what he would say if I asked him about it. Secretly he would probably be a bit annoyed & think I was snooping, but he always manages to give me some reason to make things sound feasible - therefore I doubt that I would get a completely honest answer anyway. He hasn't been doing anything else to make me suspicious (except loss of interest in sex, but that's another story), he's usually very loving and always lets me know where he is and what he's doing. But I can't help feeling as though there might be something I'm not supposed to know. Would anyone be upset or suspicious about this?

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BandofBunnies · 07/04/2007 10:05

Agree with ifonly. Asking him is better than snooping. He needs to trust you too.

jampot · 07/04/2007 10:08

maybe its because if he left the lock off and someone found it/stole it they could cause havoc with it? I think you're looking too much into it - its good practice surely?

jofeb04 · 07/04/2007 10:11

I would not be suspicious. I have a lock on my phone, and it is always on. It is not so my dh can look at it, but simply if my phone gets stolen, it is harder for someone else to use it.
I also check my phone regulary due to being on call, and also to see if friends etc have got in contact. But, I don't do it in front of dh while we are talking!

Have you got any other reason to be feeling like this?

powder28 · 07/04/2007 21:03

Nicol06, are you ok?

Nicol06 · 08/04/2007 01:22

Hi, sorry have just been busy!

Dh told me the password to his phone after I asked him about it. He said he's not trying to hide anything & I feel a bit silly for confronting him, but years ago (and I mean a VERY long time ago) he did give me reason not to trust him. He was doing things behind my back but it was ages ago and he's been trying very hard since then to make it up to me. I don't believe I have reason to mistrust him now, it's just that he's gone off sex as well over the past 6 months or so and I suppose I'm feeling a bit confused about that. He says it's just work and health problems that have made him like this lately, but of course I'm wondering if it's anything else.

Anyway I'm fine, just wonder occasionally if I have any reason not to trust him.

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BandofBunnies · 08/04/2007 08:35

Well i guess if he gave you reason before, thenhe's going to just have to except that you will get suspicious again.

At least it's nothing this time.

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