abandonment

[usedtobeslim]

I think he is planning to walk away and disappear. he threatened it for a long time but I came across some things which make me think he is putting things in place. I cannot tell him. He is very short tempered. It would probably be for the best in the long term but the short term terrifies me.

We are married, 3 DC (one severely disabled, I am on carers allowance and depend on him financially). We own the house jointly. Where would that leave me? Just trying to prepare myself for what might happen. Anybody been through it?

you would claim income support as a carer and council tax benefit and a part of the mortgage.
www.gov.uk/support-for-mortgage-interest.
plus tax credits and child benefit and maintenance.

would I be able to sell the home if he has disappeared? I don't want to stay in this house.

He threatened it? What an arsehole. Can't you just tell him that you know what he's planning to do and tie up any loose ends so he doesn't leave you and your DCs completely in the shit? Is this because he's not enough of a person to admit that he wants to walk away from his family and never see you all again? Poor you. I'm furious on your behalf.

Can't you just tell him that you know what he's planning to do and tie up any loose ends so he doesn't leave you and your DCs completely in the shit?

he says he does not care. I guess he want to show to me how 'good' I had it with him. I know.

Have you sought legal advice? I would. He sounds horrible and his actions very vengeful. How will you sell the house without him if he's on the mortgage/deeds? People who are at the end of their tether enough to do this don't usually make threats about it x

not yet. I don't have the money nor the time. I have nobody to look after DC3 (with SN). it's just not as easy as going somewhere. I have no friends/family/support network. he knows this.

I had a google. don't think I can do anything with the house...

no idea who I walked blind sighted into this mess. Out with the DC now. will be back later.

I don't think you can afford not to unless you want to be left there stuck in a house you don't want to be in. Some solicitors will do a free half hour on the phone. Is he abusive in other ways?