My younger sister has often been tricky to manage. Easily offended which we managed as a family to avoid upsetting her.
She has had more than her fair share of tragedy so we have cut her some slack as a result. But then our lives have not been plain sailing either.
She has ongoing health issues and this has meant she was looked after/babied more. She was special.
For certain periods we have had a good relationship where i would say there has been give and take on both sides. At other times it has not been an easy relationship.
The last few years she has been hard to get along with for many reasons.
She lies and does not seem to care that you know it's not the truth. So she lies about her past for example. I would say that her motivation for lying is to make herself look good.
She literally never pays me a compliment or asks me how I am. I have had a lot of health problems which have affected my appearance which she has ignored. I cant help noticing the lack of support/reassurance from her. She frequently mentions how much thinner she is than me and will tell me I have copied her hairstyle as though she has the monopoly on a blonde bob.
Every conversation is about her hair, nails, health, or something heroic that she has done. Or her enemies.
She has borrowed significant sums of money which she has not repaid.
I thought all of this was a bad patch she was going through but then all of a sudden it occurred to me that this is a pattern of behaviour that has occurred throughout her life. She isn't going to grow up or change or suddenly start taking responsibility for her actions now is she? This is her.