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Rant! Why can't men multi task?????

14 replies

JoshandJamie · 06/04/2007 11:31

I am so annoyed. Yesterday DH worked from home and I looked after the kids. While looking after kids I also prepared 3 meals, did a bunch of gardening, collected dry cleaning, picked up shoes to be repaired, took and fetched buggy to be fixed, took kids to see ducks, cleaned up kitchen and did laundry. Oh, and bathed both kids and put them to bed. DH worked.

Today I have to work (from home) and Dh has to look after kids. Well it started with him not managing to make them breakfast because we were out of milk and bread. And he couldn't think: well we have some frozen hot cross buns and some fruit and some eggs. Concoct something. And since I've been trying to work, DH has been gardening and I've had both kids repeatedly coming in and asking for something to eat or something to drink or play with me or I'm bored or I'm tired....

The little one had a poo nappy that he'd obviously been in for ages. He was bawling his head off. DH didn't even notice that he was 'missing' while I changed him and put him to bed. He could quite easily have wandered out of the garden and onto the road for all he knew.

Meanwhile I'm trying to write 3 different articles and a business plan. sigh

Why is it that he can't do more than one thing at a time????? It drives me absolutely f*ing mad.

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singingmum · 06/04/2007 11:33

Men just can't I'm afraid.Tell him to just look after the kids next time maybe he could handle that

BigCremeEggs · 06/04/2007 11:37

mine just as bad too as theres no way in a million years he could be a housedad!!! no way

catmac · 06/04/2007 11:37

Can't you send him on an afternoon trip with the kids to insure yourself a more productive afternoon.

zookeeper · 06/04/2007 11:37

mine will stand in the middle of a chaotically messy nwaiting for the kettle to boil without thinking to have a wipe around/wash some plates etc for the three minutes the kettle takes to boil etc etc etc etc

The kettle isn't the only one boiing at the end of it...

I just think they've got a misssing link somewhere

zookeeper · 06/04/2007 11:38

chaotically messy kitchen

JoshandJamie · 06/04/2007 11:38

The problem is I had hoped to cram in all my work this morning so that we could spend time together as a family this afternoon - but so far that plan is shot to shit

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BigCremeEggs · 06/04/2007 11:40

tell your DH to take the kids to the park for an hour whilst you try do your stuff and surely you've got most of it done by the time they come back

Novacane · 06/04/2007 11:51

At least yours is out of bed!!!!!!!!!

Ive been up with ds, cleaned downstairs, washed up hoovered polished etc putin washing, and now im upstairs sorting out old clothes to go to charity because im fed up of clutter.

All this while DP is fast asleep (bearing in mind I was at work last night and am at work all weekend for 12 1/2 hours each day while he is OFF until tuesday)

I've given in.

Radley · 06/04/2007 12:01

I had a lie in (supposed to have done) all I've heard for most of it was him shouting at the kids.

I go up at 11 (been reading since 9) and he has done NOTHING and I mean Nothing, the kids were playin out in unironed clothes without their hair brushed and he had put the breakfast dishes on top of and empty dishwasher.

He can't understand why i'm not happy. I was on a course all day yesterday and whe he got home after an hour I was fed up of him telling me how tired he was because of how much he'd done (washing, that was it)I've also told him if he continues to be in such a mood then he can piss off out for the day because i'm not putting up with it

JoshandJamie · 06/04/2007 12:04

Yowser Radley! You get lie-ins until 11?! Our lie-ins end at 8am. How sad are we?

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frenchconnection · 06/04/2007 12:05

this is why i have split from dh!!
drives me fucking mad!
i cannot wait to be on my own without having to tell him what to do/nag all the time..

lazyemma · 06/04/2007 12:14

learned helplessness, basically. If there's an unequal division of housework/childcare tasks from the start, it's not surprising that the partner who doesn't do as much (male or female) doesn't instantly step up a gear when they need to.

Radley · 06/04/2007 12:15

joshandjamie, but, i had been awake since about 9 and lie in bed reading. There is no way I could sleep with him shouting etc.

He is now sulking in the bath because I told him if he was staying in this mood he could piss of out.

HoppyDaddy · 06/04/2007 22:49

Men can, some of us do. Lots don't. And they get away with it. So they'll never need to learn.

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