Would you put up with partner commenting on other women

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My partner will make the odd (immature and in my eyes insensitve/innapropriate ) comments when an attractive woman comes on the tv ("oooooh yehhhh") if theres say a half naked lady showing her legs, bum or whatever.. when he does this it makes me cringe.

Now i know most men look (as do women) but i dont need the verbal comments.. making it clear that he finds this person attractive...

How would u feel? (Ive told him i dont find it funny and hes stopped doig it so much but occasionally he does and it really pi**es me off. Ps i know he'd never cheat and i dont have trust issues etc...

Am i oversrnsitive or is it rude and disrespectful for your partner to do/say this in front of me ..if he was with a group of guys etc then yeh sure whatever but surely in front of partner men should be a bit more tasteful??

Grossly disrespectful

I'm not bothered and I do the same back. I know I'm pretty, but I'm not the only decent looking person in the world

Wouldn't bother me if the other person is someone on tv

But if he started doing it over normal people in the street or whatever then yes he'd be gone. That's just disrespectful.

You've said you don't like it - he hasn't stopped- that's disrespectful

Yuck that would upset me

It's just all a bit teenage.

Ask him when he plans to grow out of this tiresome adolescent phase.

When past bfs and X did that it was because they didn't value me at all. Is he really so undeveloped that he can't keep a thought in his head? Does every inane thing have to come out of his mouth?

That's not on. That's just base.

In my opinion if men do this they are doing it to get to you. Make you feel insecure about yourself. I would do it back but if that isn't your thing then I would definitely let him know how pathetic he sounds.

That's a bit weird. The only person my dh lusts after is holly Willoughby and even then it's not in a disrespectful way.
I agree that you should do it too and see what his reaction is. He probably won't like it when the shoe is on the other foot.
Or just change the channel when he starts harping on about someone

I used to date someone who did this and I hated it, asked him to stop and he didn't. It's disrespectful and immature in my opinion.

Very juvenile.

Very immature. My first boyfriend at 16yo did this and stopped after I asked him.

That's how immatute it is.

DP & I sometimes say stuff like this in a really jokey way, about either sex, just sort of sniggering behind our hands because we're both childish / pervs basically. It doesn't bother me as long as it's clearly lighthearted and more focused on us making fun of how childish our brains are - not on objectifying other people or making anyone uncomfortable.

Re this: if he was with a group of guys etc then yeh sure whatever but surely in front of partner men should be a bit more tasteful??

... so it's OK for him to think that women are meat to be leered at, as long as he keeps it to himself?

If that is what you're saying, then I think YABU in that your bar is incredibly low for assessing the character of the man you're with.

I get itchy when women talk like this about men... "I mean it's ok that he's a pig about women, but surely what's important here is that he's not a pig TO ME specifically" That's rape culture stuff tbh

Beesandkbnees.. personally id prefer if he or any man didnt make any of these comments but i guess im realistic .. groups of women together make silly comments about men and of course men do when together.. even if its just nodding and laughing along with what others in the group are saying.. thats one thing but what i have more of an issue is making unprompted and. Unwelcome comments in front of/to a partner