What would you do?

[Marygoround17]

I found out by mistake, a text msg on DH's work phone from this woman - I'll call her B. B is DH's friend sister. DH's friend died years ago. However, B has kept in contact with my DH dispite the fact that I have made it very clear to both my DH and B to stop communicating because there is really no need to because DH's friend is no more. Throughout my marriage life I have been coming across many text msgs and calls on DH's phone (always work phone not his personal phone) from B which suggested that there was some kind of relationship still going on. This has caused a lot problems in my marriage for as long as I can remember. B is also married with kids by the way?
When I confronted DH about the many texts and calls he had been having with B at the time he denied having an affair with B and promised he would stop all contact with B and have nothing to do with her. For a while I didn't see anything to suggest otherwise until recently when I saw a text on DH's phone from B greeting my DH. This message showed on DH's phone when DH asked me to put his phone on the charger (I didn't go Iooking for it) I recognised the number straight away. My first reaction was to ask DH but I was not in the right frame of mind to confront him at the time,so I took a snapshot of the text messge instead until am ready to confront him.
DH knows how I feel about B. In the past I took the matter head-on which wasn't always the best way forward. Not knowing whether or not my DH responded to B's text message is doing my head in. What would be the best way to tackling this issue without too much drama?:-(
DH is otherwise a fun, loving, caring and wonderful person.

I think you're already on the emotional roller coaster given that she is still trying to maintain a relationship with your husband despite your requests to both to pack it in.
How are you going to react to the possible following scenarios?

A) He has replied to her and continued their contact as before.

B) He hasn't replied and you now look like you don't trust him (which to be fair is not surprising given the past!)

It sounds like regardless of either outcome you have an unresolved issue.

What does her husband think of her texting your husband 3/4 times a day ? Have you told him?
I wouldn't like it one bit if my husband was texting another woman lots of times a day, especially one that I had my suspicions about.

Thanks everyone who responded l appreciate it. Good night!

Jusy seen the last three responses. Googlecoffe you're very right l still have an unresolved issue here whicj l jave no idea how am hoinh to resolve it yet.
Holeonmyheart to answer you - No l did not tell her husband even though l thought about telling him at the time. In hindsight maybe l should have. I didnt because l was protecting my DH.
Yes so that's the story of my life so far and don't know yet how it's gonna end seeing that l have not spoken to him about it yet😟

The night before your wedding he slept with his best mate's sister?

of course he's "crossed boundaries" with this woman, and yes agree they are probably having an emotional affair although you think he was at her house one night when you arrived in the morning and found him there.

I don't quite understand why you are so fixated on whether he answered the text that you found - of course he answered it - why wouldn't he - they have been texting for years so why would he not answer this one. I wonder if she asked him something outright about their situation or something similar.

I wouldn't be able to contain myself but we're all different. I think this cat and mouse game has been going on far too long.

He'll simply find another way to contact her if you confront him.

Have you asked how he'd feel if you had that amount of contact with another man? Because it does seem excessive...but was that many years ago...or more recently?