Grumpy husband

[Mo0517]

Hi, bit of context, married 2 years, 4 month old DD and his 8 year old DD with us half the time.
Obviously we are both tired, he works full time but I do all overnight care if baby. A lot of the time he is grumpy and says he is just tired, but is short and snappy with me. I'm tired too but manage to not be rude to him. We have very little spare time on our own so when we do I want to make the most of it. Tonight for example I left his DD to a club and baby was in bed, we had 2 hrs before she had to be collected again, when I came home he had put a film on that he knows I wouldn't watch, I sat with him for a while then suggested we could spend time chatting or maybe watch something we'd both enjoy. He looked at me as if to say "here she goes again" I really feel like things are slipping a bit in our relationship.
We would of always made time for each other before. Am I being silly!?
I just want him to want to spend time with me when we can, instead of putting on a crappy film. He then turns it on me and says if he came in and I was watching something he didn't like he'd be happy to just sit and watch it.
It feels like he doesn't care. The tv thing is just an example. He is generally not the same as he has been before. Grumpy, unloving, uninterested.
I don't know how to say something as he just gets defensive.

I should add-he doesn't see a problem with any of this!!

Is he feeling a bit jealous of baby ?

Is watching tv his way of switching off from work?

Can you get a baby sitter and have a
Might together.

It's hard when you've just had a baby it's very tiring youl still be hormonal and you're both most likely still be tired...

Even if he does get defensive, you need to talk to him about how you feel. Bottling this up and ignoring it is a recipe for disaster. Just be careful as to how you approach him. Throwing around accusations won't help anything. When you have a quiet moment - no kids around! - tell him that you've been missing him and the quiet time you used to share. Ask if the two of you could work out ways to spend more quality time together away from the television. All you can do is try.

Thanks everyone, i will address it at a better time. He's an awful communicator at the best of times so I have to be careful how I go about things. He's gone off to bed now and I'm going to stay up for a while or we'd just end up arguing in bed.