I miss dating!

[danslenoir]

Does anyone else feel the same as me? I'm happily married, I love my husband and the life we have together, I'm pregnant and can't wait to meet our baby and become our own little family.

BUT... I sometimes miss dating. I miss the thrill of meeting some absolute hottie at a club/bar/coffee shop, feeling that undeniable chemistry, or getting that first text from them and all the butterflies I get and the chats with my girlfriends about how to reply.

I miss putting on my make-up, doing my hair, choosing an amazing outfit, and psyching myself up on the tube with music blaring in to my headphones and heading off to my date. I live in London so there's always a new place to try out, new cocktails, new faces.

I miss being a bit tipsy at the end of the date when high on a buzz and catching a night bus or taxi (long before the days of uber), going past all the London landmarks shining bright under the night sky and feeling youthful and carefree and waiting in anticipation for a follow-up date text.

I can't stress enough how much I love my husband and maybe it's because I'm 28 weeks pregnant and haven't gone out for quite some time that I'm really missing my "old life".

Yes but dating can also involve getting very very hurt so many people will envy your situation. Very many congratulations on your pregnancy

yes yes yes I used to feel quite nostalgical about those days! Being single and living in london ( or any other big city) is a lot of fun, you get to meet interesting guys in fancy bards, get butterflies, go on exciting dates and then fall asleep with ge smile on a face after a dare looking forward to the next text or call.

How long have you been married ?
Trust me once you have a baby it will be a life changing experience. No matter how hard it would be you would never want to look back.
Saying that, You can still go on dates with your husband. once you have a baby and settled routine you can go for a night out with your OH get tipsy and dance a night ( or at least couple of hours! ) away or do bar hopping in soho !

The world of dating has changed...it went online since you settled down, and its not straight out of a Sophie Kinsella novel anymore. It involves cheating, ghosting, friends with benefits, friends without benefits, sneaking around, no commitment, tracking people on facebook, waiting for text replies and getting back on Tinder at the first sign of a disagreement. I would be thankful to be well out of it and grateful for a cup of Horlicks at home with a nice DH. When your baby is older, there is no reason you cannot re-enact date night with your husband!

Your post really made me smile, YES I miss it toooooo! Really quite a lot sometimes, I still go out in London quite frequently but there's just something so fun and frisky about flirting with and meeting new guys...having some txt banter with them...giggly drunken dates ...sigh!

I've been married just over a year and together with my husband for 3.5 years.

I think you're right - once baby comes my priorities will change but I will still be able to go out on dates with DH, which admittedly is what we did before I fell pregnant. I'm just too tired and feel to frumpy to go out at the moment so I've got my rose-tinted glasses on and reminiscing about my former life!

@scoobydoo1971 yes I think you're right that the world of dating has changed! refuses to take rose-tinted glasses off

What you described is like looking back through rose tinted glasses. I loved dating but when I think about it I don't miss going home alone in the dark and cold, making an effort to go out and get dressed up for someone who was only after one thing or didn't bother messaging after the date, the hopelessness of feeling like I would never meet anyone, being blown out and spending the night alone because it was too late to make other plans.

Although dating had its fun times I am happy I don't need to do it again. I have a few friends currently dating and I don't envy them at all!

Your dating days may not be over permanently! Post separation at 48 and I'm enjoying it a lot more than I did as a shy teenager :D Not that you should look forward to your marriage breaking down or anything :D

You're just at an awkward stage when you can't do as much but don't have a baby to coddle ... but really, enjoy just walking about as and when you want, as you won't be able to do even that for the next few years ... first feeding round the clock, then walking at snail's pace with a toddler ... enjoy the freedom you do have now!

Once baby is here you'll hopefully be able to go out with your partner and dance the night away, as long as you can arrange childcare. Definitely worth making the effort. It's too easy to fall into your mum and dad roles and lose touch with the rest.

Was that first part aimed at me raven? I'm in my marriage with the expectation that it will be forever, but I do know that's could be a bit naive but my parents and in laws have been married for 40+ years so here's hoping!!

loafer No, at anyone! Just saying, you never know! (And be careful what you wish for...)