How long after getting married did you have your first argument?

[bitzy12]

Just that really, only been married 3 weeks and dh is being a proper dick the last couple of days......fed up already.....

He's just saying he feels he goes to work all day to provide for my kids - not his- and feels he's shouldn't be treated like that. My son has done nothing wrong either.

Honestly he is being such a massive twat. We do argue but usually he is the one to want to move past it but hes not letting this one drop. Which is new to me as he hasn't been like this before.

I've got so many things I want to vent back at him but I can't cos he's asleep now

Do you go to work, too? Do you get CM for your children?

I'm a carer and yes I get cm. I feel like saying "I'm the same when your kids are here, turn the house upside down with mess and eat everything in site'. When his kids are here I spend the weekend and the next 2 days tidying up after them but I don't because it's petty. It annoys me but I let it go over my head. Shame he can't do the same

We don't really argue, or at least we only have mild disagreements that I certainly wouldn't remember years later!

Maybe you just say to him exactly what you just said on here.
Sounds like he want you to be a grateful wife. Same obviously doesn't apply to him when its you cleaning up after his kids.

What did your child do/say to make him think he was being really rude to him?

Is his feelings towards you son something new?

The next day. We were both just exhausted and peopled out.

A few blazing ones on honeymoon and we went the day after we got married

Leaving the registry office

I can't remember but we still don't argue " properly". I would love DH to be more passionate when we fall out but he's so bloody calm - infuriating! I do remember thinking it was a good sign when we went on holiday for a week ( this was before we got engaged) & only fell out once.

We had an argument the night before our wedding. We were both still living at home with our parents and I wasn't sure if he would turn up for the wedding! He did, but I was still really annoyed with him (can't for the life of me remember what the row was about). I remember saying my vows and a little voice in my head was saying I hope you are not making a mistake! I must have forgiven him at some point as we will have been married for 33 years in April!

About 3 and a half years. We really dont argue though and that one was more down to lack of sleep, sick baby and PND than anything else.

I'm one of those super calm people when I 'argue'. I know my wife finds it infuriating....

Our marriage certificate is laminated in the two halves I ripped it into.......12 hours after we said "I do" ! We laugh now but it was awful at the time!

The day after when he was glued to World Cup football all afternoon and then the endless analysis. I may have been OTT in my reaction. We laugh about it now, many years later.

*Honestly he is being such a massive twat. We do argue but usually he is the one to want to move past it but hes not letting this one drop. Which is new to me as he hasn't been like this before.
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Oh. Bit of a red flag here.

You say there's more? What else?

To be honest, there isn't more. I thought there might of been but there isn't. I checked his phone - yep bad wife alert - but he is a recovering gambling addict and I thought he may of had a slip up. But he hasn't and I'm 100% sure. So now I just feel guilty for looking but I had to set my mind at rest. To be honest, he is doing amazing at the moment and I couldn't be prouder of him.

So the problem is, why has my son pissed him off so much? He only made a cheeky comment. He didn't mean anything nasty by it, wasn't aggressive or anything. But dh really has taken offence to it. He has a couple of other things health wise that are stressing him out at he minute and I could tell straight away he had a bad day when he came home that night.

We had another argument/talk this morning and I said him and his kids do a lot of things that annoy me but I let them go over my head because it's petty. He kept asking for examples which I refused to give as I knew that would take me off my point and he would make it turn into a separate argument. I'm not daft and I know what he was trying to do there.

Then he said he would try snap out of it, gave me a hug and a kiss, said love you and went off to work.

Will see what tonight brings

We argue about the petty stuff which means nothing like some of the examples on here but this one just seems like a bit more than that.

I told him that if he carries on like this, I'd be surprised if we make our one year anniversary which I think shocked him abit. He said I was being stupid.

OP, that sounds worrying. I think your heading has made it look quite lighthearted but it isn't. Perhaps you could start a new thread and get better advice.x

Leaving the reception. Three weeks is good going IMO.

I'm not sure it's anything to massively worry about. He's just grumpy at the minute. We've spoken twice this morning since he left about various things (not to do with us) and he's been fine and normal but now it's me that's still being miserable with him.