Relationship troubles.

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Ok so me and my partner have been together for 7.5yrs. We have two children together aged 5 and 2.
When we first got together, around 2 months In, I cheated on him as revenge because one of his friends told me he was sleeping with a girl who tried it on with him behind my back. Turned out he wasn't. He decided that he wants to stay with me etc.

Anyway, early this year (around april/may time) I found he had made a fake email account with a fake name and signed up to numerous dating sites. Chatting up various women. Also a fake facebook. I came across these by mistake as I went to log into my Facebook on his phone.
Anyway I thought I could forgive him. But I find myself constantly accusing him. Like, asking him to show me what he's been on and things like that.
I'm constantly thinking about it. For example, right now, I'm at my mum's and he told me last night he was horny. Now tonight he isn't, and we didn't have sex last night so now I'm thinking the worst and accusing him. I'm in tears. I don't want to just throw the relationship away if I don't have to. I'm just looking for advice really, or if anyone's been through this and made it work, how?
Thanks.

Not getting past the 'you cheated on him 'cos his mate said so'...

Are you both 14. It sounds hideously immature to be honest!

How incredibly immature. You cheated as revenge because his mate told you he'd cheated.

He's probably getting his own revenge back on you.

The trust is gone from your relationship and it may never return.

You should consider relationship counselling.

This sounds too much like hard work. End it would be my advice

This is a site for adults, doll

There's much more to me cheating than what I've said. It's not just as black and white. I wanted to just explain in short. But seen as though I'm getting rude comments,

My ex, before my current, cheated on me with my best friend. The girl who he apparently cheated on me with tried it on with him, and he was chatting her up on Facebook. She was a friend of his brothers girlfriend. She used to sneak into my fellas bedroom when everyone was asleep (when we first met he and I both lived with our parents) And no one actually knows what went on. But I trusted him when he said that nothing happened between them. Then his friend saw me out one night and he told me that my fella told him he's sleeping with her. The same night I got a text from my fella explaining how he wants to end things, but didn't actually end it. So I assumed he was finishing with me for her. Instead of speaking to him, I slept with a random guy who I met. Turned out he wasn't finishing with me for her after all. He doesn't even remember sending the text.

I dont know why you're getting flamed for admitting you cheated OP as what you did was in the very early stages and you've since been together a long time and presumably he's forgiven you as otherwise you wouldn't still be together.
What he has done is very different; do you know whether he cheated or was just on these sites? And what has he given as his reasons for them? Not that any reason justifies it but it does tell you whether your relationship is salvageable.
It sounds like counselling would be your best course of action. People can move on from these things but it depends on whether you think you can rebuild the trust.

Me neither. I was honest with him. Told him the next day. And he still continued to meet up with the other girl for months afterwards.
This happened 7yrs ago.
He said the reason he went on them is because he wanted me to find them and finish with him. But he deleted all evidence that he had been on them. He left the fake Facebook logged in by mistake. This isn't the first time he's made another Facebook either. He did it back in 2012 too. Searching for girls he used to go out with etc. But he never spoke to them or anything. I know he hasn't cheated during this time of being on the dating sites etc. But he was sending dirty messages and giving his personal phone number out. Also talking dirty to a girl via email.

He's a sleazy creep.
Horrible male role model for your DC.
You won't get over this.
He's been totally deceitful, lied and maybe cheated.
Can you live with that for the next 10-20 years?
I couldn't.
The trust is gone.
Not trust = No relationship