Met a man on holiday who i really like, feeling a bit confused

[gaynor83]

Im from the UK and met an Australian guy on holiday...we really hit it off. I just cant believe the one time i meet someone i actually click with, he lives in Australia
I know its a cliche, but i really hope it isnt just a holiday romance...
We became friends on facebook. When i got home 2 weeks ago we began messaging on there, it seemed really chatty and natural. He asked me to skype, which ive never done before. I was a bit scared of this, as im not a very confident person. I know he liked me on holiday, but on webcam i felt more vulnerable. But i went ahead and we chatted.
I thought it went well...we were still messaging the next few days, but he hasnt mentioned skyping again. I feel kind of paranoid about how i came across.
We have continued to message over the past week, but i feel like ive initiated quite a bit, although hes always quick to reply and seems interested.
I said hello this morning, he messaged bit then he said that hes got studying to do, so i left it at that. It was my first day at Uni today and i thought he might have messaged, but i guess hes busy.
I suppose i just feel kind of worried over the skype thing, feeling really unsure of myself.
I know if anything were to come of this, it would be tough as we live on opposite sides of the world. Any advice would be welcome :)
Thank you

How often per year do you think you could afford to see him?

Unless he is the love of your life (not likely) then surely he is cooling off as he realises that this is a non starter in relationship terms?

Hmm yeah i did think that. Well he has family over here and i could probably visit a couple times a year...
I guess the world is not so big these days

Most people aren't looking for a relationship where they can only have sex a couple of times a year though, are they?

The world is still pretty massive when the person you most want a hug from is on the other side of it.

I know what you mean. Just sad that things always seem to happen in the wrong time/ place ☹

If things always happen in the wrong time and place maybe there is a reason for that? Could there be some reason you are subconsciously avoiding intimacy? (Apologies for the armchair psychology )It just seems odd to me that you would even consider a guy in Australia for a relationship. Makes it seem like you want some of the trappings of a relationship without actually having to have a relationship.

Sorry but I think Skype is the least of your worries. You say you clicked on holiday - did you kiss him? Did it get physical? Is there anything to suggest that he actually fancies you rather than simply likes you? You need a reality check I'm afraid. If you had a holiday romance (i.e. sex galore) then I doubt he was thinking about a boyfriend girlfriend scenario involving intercontinental travel. If you didn't kiss or get physical then just enjoy it for what it was: a lovely frisson on holiday. End of.

Well...maybe. i wouldnt normally think long distance was an ideal situation. I guess id just be optimistic we could make things work somehow, if we really wanted to.
He just seemed so different to the people around here, near where i live. I never hit it off with anyone like that usually.
Im a bit silly and romantic sometimes haha.
But i do get your point maybe long distance is easier somehow, i hadnt consciously thought of that though.

It's a non starter really isn't it. Cool off and enjoy life!

Yeah it did get physical...i wouldnt normally but i suppose it just felt right at the time.
I know im probably just being silly. Just thought id ask you guys cos i feel silly talking about it otherwise ☺