Introducing a new boyfriend

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I've been single for 3 years with two DDs (7 and 6).

I've started seeing a new boyfriend recently and now 4 months have passed and we can both see it going somewhere, I'm starting to think of introducing him to my children.

However I don't really know how to do this! I don't want to make a big deal of it so I'm kind of thinking of bumping into him in town one day and going to somewhere like McDonald's. However it's also been suggested to me that I just tell them that I've got a new boyfriend and would they like to meet him.

I'm probably overthinking this to be honest! But any advice would be gratefully received!

Not speaking from experience here but in your position I would probably let them know I had a new person I enjoyed spending time with and would like them to meet. Avoid the label of boyfriend just now but also don't lie and say 'friend' or just bump into him 'accidentally'. I tend to favour truth with kids if possible. Try keep it low key like let him come to the park with you one day or something.

I'm not sure whether you should try make it seem like you do when you meet up with any other friend or whether to kinda let them know it's someone special and that this is different, whether it's best for them to be prepared or take it as it comes. But I'm sure someone else will be along soon :) good luck!

Please don't deceive them.
Start by dropping his name into conversation and let them lead. 'Bumping' into him is what my ex did with his new girlfriend and DS who was 5 hated it

Kids are canny creatures, it is often the best way to be up front with them. So tell them that you have been seeing someone and would they like to meet him.

The suggestion to just tell them is the best one.

Thank you all!

My girls are pretty switched on and I don't lie to them about anything else which is why I've been feeling confused.

I've not met anyone in the last 3 years I'd like to introduce to them so this is all new to me!