Other half goes off when we are out drinking together

[Spanny1]

Ok, so I have been with my OH for over 5 years. One of the problems I have is that when we are out drinking he really likes to drink.

When we are out together with a friend or two and have a few drinks, he often goes off for long periods at a time, starts buying drinks for the bar staff (often women). Also, if we go dancing (which is not often any more really), he will go off randomly without saying anything and I am left wondering where he is.

I then find him dancing drunkily and talking to other women.

My issues with this are firstly that he just goes off and doesn't tell me. Then, it also makes me feel insignificant when he goes off. It makes me feel I am not enough. Also, yes, what is he doing with these women and what is going on in his head?

He is a social butterfly and everyone loves him for that. But for me, when we are out and he does this, it makes me anxious and ruins my night.

So am I in the wrong? If your partner was doing the same would you care?

We have talked about it and one minute he understands and the next minute, he tells me he is doing nothing wrong. That does not help.

Please help offer advice.

Ugh, mine does this. To be fair it's never with other women, he just fucks off out for a smoke at the pub without inviting me or something. It's really annoying.
But like others have said, you don't need to be stuck together all night (you certainly don't need to leave him 🙄). The difference is, are you left with mutual friends, or completely on your own?
Sounds like he's just a shit drinker and a bit immature, flirting with other women, the tit.
I'd ask him what he's trying to prove to himself.

😂 Ada!

What's a Dagon wife, Dr?

I've never heard of it.

Dr morbid, since your a bloke and you say you do it, can you explain why you do it.
~Not attacking you but really want to understand why.

I don't get why he would have to tell you where he is going. He's in the same building.

My husband buys staff drinks at the end off the night it's a perk of the job.

I honestly don't get what he is doing wrong.
Would it piss you off as much, if it was only male staff he bought drinks for and only males he spoke too?

He's being fucking rude and thats all there is to it. I'd be flirting up a storm with the nearest few guys when he decided to come back!