It seems such a pathetic thing to be upset about but I really am.
OH and I both work. I do traditional Mon-Fri 8:30 til 4:30, he does shift work at the moment which changes regularly but often means he has 1 or 2 days off in the week and works weekends.
This week things have come to a head about OH's total lack of respect for me or the house.
On Monday I had asked him if he could do a bit of housework. I didn't make a list because stupidly I thought he was an adult who could spot what needed doing (I.e. pots for washing, hoovering, wiping sides down). I wasn't expecting a blitz, just enough that I could focus on cooking tea and prepping breakfast and lunch.
I can't tell you how much i was looking forwards to not having to do EVERYTHING on getting in from work.
You can imagine how my heart sunk when I walked in and nothing had been done. I mean, nothing. Curtains not opened, pots still lying about, DD's high chair crusted up with weetabix from the morning.
I just lost it. I thought it so disrespectful. He insisted he had done something. Cleaned the toilet (but not the rest of the bathroom), picked up toys that DD had got out again 
, and text someone about a new fire.
That was the sum total of everything but he was adamant that he had done loads.
I am at the end of my tether. Exhausted with the arguing of all of it. He claims that he can't do anything around the house when he has DD 
yet this morning he refused to take her to the supermarket whilst I hoovered and mopped the floor because it would take him twice as long. He has now skipped off to work leaving me to entertain 2 year old AND do the housework.
I just don't know what to do. I can't get through to him. He makes me feel horrible for raising it with him, says I'm looking for an argument and have to ruin our time together by nagging him. I've tried making lists but there's always an excuse or he will do it later and then doesn't. It's just unfair!