When to tell the kids that DH is leaving?

[Tearsofthemushroom]

STBXH (have to get used to that) told me last night that he had fallen in love with someone else and is leaving me. He went to be with her but is coming back today to see the children. My DS has just started secondary and is finding it really tough to settle in, feeling ill, crying in the mornings etc.
My DH goes away quite a bit so we could probably muddle through together for a couple of weeks with him in the spare room for four nights a week.
I just don't know what is for the best, or even how I feel about it

Hi tears, sorry about your situation and that you haven't had any replies.

I've been in the same situation, and it's really tough. I don't think there is a good time really, but you need to do it soon, there's no point leaving it too long. Maybe wait a few days to get your head around it first, then you'll be stronger to support your kids. X

Your STBXH has chosen a really great time to drop this bomb hasn't he. Selfish. I'd ask him what he thinks. Is he prepared to talk to DS and explain? If he isn't then he's not only selfish but a coward who knows he's wrong.

I'm sorry this has happened to you and your DS.

Did you have any warning? How are you feeling now?

He should be telling his children and answering any questions they might have, not you.

This was me 3 years ago only my ex decided to do it via an email.

DS at the time had also just started secondary school.

How are you coping with it all? Be kind to yourself. Talk and rant here!

I felt it was best to tell my son asap.. I couldn't pretend to him but do what is right for you.

He should be the one to tell them.

Big hugs!