My dad is moving out, Help I can't understand him.

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My dad has a secound house & keeps on saying he is going to move out & leave our family after the tenants finish rent. I think he is doing that to frighten me because he does not want me to move out, I have been looking at house myself, my dad could not cop on his own as he release on mum too much but i know I can copy I am very independent as I have had to look after myself at a young age.
I can’t understand him my mum can’t even.
We have a little sister & we foster & my bro is stupid has escaped going to Uni being a depressed keeps changing course putting him self in more debt & does not want to work.

My mum things it is a good idea if I move in there & pay rent.
My mum didn’t help the situation as a kid as she was the drunk, but been sober for nearly 8 years.

I would not give a fuck if he moved out, I can afford to run my family house with the help of my income I just thing he is selfish & dreamy.

But mom & dad aren’t a normal family always never with each other never spend any money, I know they should have divorced a long time ago & I just want to escape.

Everything fucked up all the time my parents ruined may childhood & I am not letting them ruin my new life, I haven’t considered getting a girlfriend yet until; I get my shit together & put it in a bag Rick & Morty

What is your income like? Do you have enough to rent on your own, even a room in a shared house? The atmosphere sounds bad for everyone and you would probably feel happier living independently.

Your parents need to sort their own marital problems out. Don't take that on your shoulders.

at the minute income good, I spoke with a lot of people & one did say which I took on board better to buy as an investment then rent & throw money away as monthly mortgage & rent are the same . Just gutted I could not move in to that dream house :(

From what you describe, it would be wise not to make any arrangements which bind you further to this set-up eg renting a house from your father/parents. Rent or buy your own place, chosen by you, so you can have as much psychological distance from your parents as becomes necessary.

Agree with this. Live your own life. Your M&D are not your responsibility, as harsh as that sounds.

I think you need to get away from the whole situation. Get a house in your own and enjoy being an adult. You are not obliged to look after your family in the way you are now.

I dont understand your comment about the dream house? Do you mean the one your father owns? I'm not sure being tied to him by having to pay him rent counts as a dream.
Buy or rent a house without any connection to your family.

Buy or rent a house without any connection to your family.

This. Do you have people you trust outside of your family who you could talk to about your current set up and support you as you find a home? You mention uni. Is there a counsellor there who could help?

You can continue offering support to your mum and siblings from outside the family home. You dont have to stay. Your dad's choices are separate to yours.

the dream house is my dads second house. As there is know other house on the market like that, 3 floors a garage, immaculate garden, right next to translation, I actually had it all planned out what I was going to do with the place. no wifi, no tv license save on electricity as just being a qualified electrician I would install solar panels or enquire about a electrician fitting them, use the electricity to power the house & give back to grid if had to be done eventually

I have just woke up so my brain is energetic & I am considering going to university in a couple of years in another country as I have savings & cheap abroad university if I do part time work & pretty much no student debt.
began learn the language in this country if I come back to my home town as work away a lot as an electrician & it is shit.
but I have start from the bottom & going to night school to do my gcse then after figure out how I am doing my A levels.
my bro is at university.

I went to see a counsellor paid £300 for 6 session worth every penny built me again I am very independent for my age.

Like I will tell a girl I am texting how do you get up at 7 & 8 on a Sunday as Sundays should before for having a extra nap & smiling.
AS well my mum is mad for not sleeping usual goes to bed at 10 o'clock & up at 4 or 5 somedays it is mad how she is working & trying to hied something.

thank you for all your comments,YogiYoni,WingsofNylon,paq
Walkacrossthesand, NotTheFordType
I appreciate each ones & the time spent on reading a chapter of my life. Have a lovely Sunday guys, girls & earthlings.

If you're thinking about returning (?) to uni in a couple of years, then you need to be looking at renting right now, not buying. It's really impossible to cover mortgage payments as well as tuition fees. (It'll be bloody difficult covering rent, but at least you can claim HB for rent. You can't do that for mortgage payments.)

thanks for the advice NotTheFordType