Hi everyone!
We've been through a really tough time lately, and our marriage feels like its crumbling. he is a wonderful man who has worked through plenty of his issues for our marriage to survive, we work together like a well oiled machine, and he does far more for our family than most men i know.
the problem is, weve got so used to focusing on whats best for DD, what makes her happiest, shes also recently had an operation which has meant ive stayed in her room the past few nights to be able to keep an eye on her. we tend to get no more than 15 minutes a day together. we frequently bicker about how im working as much as him, but im the default parent and i do all of the housework, which isnt really true, he does what he realises needs doing. he will wash up a few bits but leave the dishwasher full, he may plonk on a load of washing.
its got to the point where neither of us feel loved, or that we are even on eachothers lists of priorities.
i want to work on this, because ive got a goodun here, i really do. hes the kindest most lovely man and we have the bones of a good relationship.
i want to plan something so we can take ourselves away from stress and reconnect.
i had thought of booking into our favourite hotel, in a room with a double bath so we can bath together with a bottle of wine and hang out together, grab a lovely dinner, put on a new set of pjs each and watch a few films
But then maybe that isn't invoking passion into our marriage and that's what we need?
I don't know which direction to plan in.
I feel like us reconnecting and having that chilled out rest time is what could help, but oh I don't know, maybe we need to do something exciting, so we have that good time to look back on and remember?
If anyone has any ideas that would be brilliant. I'm just not sure. I wanted to plan something special that shows we can still have fun, and enjoy each others company.
If we can't start to work on this, I just don't know if our marriage will last much longer, i know that neither of us feel appreciated, which is a shame because together we have built a nicer life than we would have separately.