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I'm annoyed with him

29 replies

Fannylodger · 16/09/2017 06:11

I was talking with somebody for a while, met up a couple times. We'd speak everyday and he became part of my routine really. But I don't regard us having been in any way committed or especially close.
In my personal life a personal trauma (I won't name it here) reared its ugly head and I had a bit of a break down of sorts. Realised I was not ready. I was as honest with him as possible but to be honest at that moment and now being with another man makes me feel queasy. I will be receiving professional help don't worry about that but I'm in no fit state to be in a relationship.

We spoke on email, Skype, kik and text. I blocked his number, he messaged me on kik so I deleted it (at this point it was just "hey"). I don't want to speak with him.
Then he emailed me saying it's not for him to judge me or push me but if I ever need him please get in touch he'll be waiting I felt bad about ignoring so I just said "thank you but it won't be necessary".
Then a whole heap of shit started he said he'd considered me as much a part of his days as x and y and that he thought I felt the same I Said "yes, but I don't want to go back to that. There are lots of people though and you'll find that again. Please leave me alone"
Since then I've had four emails I don't know how to block him on email (gmail+ yahoo though he's only messaging my gmail ATM).
Emails consist of
"Please trust me I want to be there for you" and then a load of shit basically taking it as an insult that I'm not leaping into his harms ("what have I done for you not to want to confide in me or support you" etc etc)

He's making it all about him and frankly I am completely offended by this I just want to do what's best for me I broke it off about a week ago the emails started arriving yesterday any idea what I can do either with blocking him or something I can say to make him fuck off????

OP posts:
Maelstrop · 16/09/2017 10:15

Mark the emails as spam. Don't respond to him. He will soon stop, hopefully. If he doesn't, I would suggest deleting your email and setting up a new one.

Fannylodger · 16/09/2017 10:17

It's all good Tres I just wanted to
Clarify for everybody.
I do feel like he's trying to piss on boundaries which is making him even less of an inviting prospect for me should I be that way inclined in a few months/years.

OP posts:
paddlenorapaddle · 16/09/2017 10:41

Stick to your guns I suspect he sensed your vulnerability and was working on you. The fact that this trauma has reared its ugly is a saving grace in some respects He's showing you who he would have been in a relationship block him then call 101

The rest of your life is calling stay strong and I hope you get all the help
And support you need

buckeejit · 16/09/2017 10:49

Ok, so you've been clear with him. Block and move on. I'm glad you've got support to help you through this difficult time. Focus on them & the future. You've already decided this is in the past so don't dwell on it any longer

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