Previously posted on a thread about ex traying to take over custody....anyway, I have been in touch with a solicitor who has sent him a letter suggesting we lay out a formal custody agreement. My ex should have received that letter today and frankly I'm dreading his response, even though I haven't asked for anything unreasonable, as his temper is awful.
Also have spoken to CSA (just for advice) who told me that in the current situation it's very unlikely I would get custody, so looks like I can forget that.
However, I'm trying to take the view that it's a small price to pay for having my own piece of mind and my own place to leave.
My main concern really is that I'm so fearful of his reaction - DS is currently staying ther and I'm worried what he will in terms of limiting access if he is 'provoked' in any way (and I think that's what this leetter will do). He won't do it directly but insidiously.
It upsets me that he still has this level of 'control' over my emotions and it's left me questioning myself and lacking in any confidence.
Do I need to get a grip? I feel it's important to stand up to him but in reality I am so fearful of any confrontation.