DH is a teacher. It's unbelievably stressful and the workload is immense. I accept the workload etc.
When I met DH it was during his 6 week holidays 7 years ago. He was energetic, happy, creative, adventurous. We continued dating and I noticed a slight change in him when he returned to work. Aside from being busy working, his appearance seemed to slip, he became quite lethargic, lazy in some ways but then always seemed close to the man I met before during the weekends. I accepted it and have always tried to understand where his job is concerned.
However, DH and I are now married with DCS and I've really come to dislike the person he is during term time Mon-Fri. He's so lethargic, difficult to make conversation with, ignorant, dis-interested, can't be bothered with appearance, goes to work in scruffy clothes, won't get his hair cut or shave. I've asked hI'm if his job makes him depressed and he tells me not, but the change between work day DH and half term/6 weeks holiday DH is massive. He's raring for life when he's not at work and so different.
I guess the issue is that DH is at work more than he's not and this scruffy, lethargic, can't be bothered with anything DH is becoming a problem for me.
I've explained I'll support him should he change career, I'll take on more hours so he can work less, but no, he refuses to move from the rut of teaching. It's like he's blind to the impact it's having on him and as a result, me. I don't fancy him Monday-Friday one bit!