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DP recently admitted to me that he found it strange when we first got together that when I've made the dinner I just shout for everyone to come and get it, he said he's used to his mum bringing it to his room for him. He didnt say it in a way that suggested he expected me to do that but I still found the comment a bit off-putting and wonder what he'd be like if we ever did move in together, am I over-reacting?

Blimey - how odd! (sorry!) Surely he wants to eat dinner with you at the table and surely he doesn;t expect you to be his mother - if he does then would reverse at high speed!

He meant he expected me to bring it into the living room for him but I explained that I have 2 children and cant be waiting hand and foot on another adult when I don't even do that for my kids... he said he totally understood but said it was just a shock to the system. I'm still left wondering how to take the comment.

my dh finds it strange that there are loads are things I don't do like his mother. I tell him tough luck. We've been together 10 years, lived together for 7

Still should eat with you fgs - I would suggest he washes up and see what happens - take it from there!

I wouldn't mind him saying it, in a neutral 'isn't it interesting how different families do things' way. But I'd be very cross if he even went anywhere near suggesting I should do the same. And I'd say, tough, get your own dinner in future you lazy swine!

My reply when dh said something similar after we first got together was that I'm not his mother, and if he wanted me to be his mother then he was with the wrong woman and I wouldn't be sticking around. I told him that I wanted a partner, not a grown-up child, and that partners were completely different to mothers.

I think your dp needs to grow up.

I think it was nice - he was just 'sharing' with you, and showing that he was happy to do things your way. Let's face it, there are plenty of men who would 'expect' you to bring them their dinner if that's what their mum did and more scary plenty of us who would do it!

I think it shows that if you did move in together he would accept your way of doing things and your expectations - which is brilliant. Keep up the good work.

We have an old ships bell on our wall which I ring at dinner time.

I think mothers who take their dinner to their sons do them no favours in the long run. So I blame his mother and look for other possible ways he expects you to indulge him because she did.