MrsHenryWinter Update Thread

[MrsHenryWinter]

You won't like it but a few people have messaged me to ask how I am.

I'm fine as it goes and still with my husband.

I don't know what else to say. It's still a massively dysfunctional relationship and I am slowly making moves to get free. It's hard work and I'm tired by it all.

But I'm alive and my children are happy, so thank you to those of you who were worried.

I take it you still have no personal bank account of your own?

No, no bank account. I could probably set one up now though, I should do that!

Really glad to hear from you MrsHenryWinter- I never posted on your original threads, but I followed them and thought of you often.

So pleased about the job OP. I remember you. Next step is a bank account, definitely.

I never forgot about you, OP. I'm so glad you're ok and gradually finding your way out.

Do you have anyone in real life to talk to and lean on?

And yes, you can certainly set up a bank account.

Also, I am no expert so I could be wrong, but my understanding about grey rock wasn't so much that you bore the abuser away as much as it's a means of detaching, disempowering them and defusing emotionally charged situations.

You can be free, OP, and someday you will be. Keep working towards it.

There were some people asking how you were in AIBU - a what posters do you think about thread. So people do and wish you well.

I think about you op. I want life to be better for you. I'm pleased to hear about the job, and the vasectomy.

My father was abusive. My mum made very plans and finally left when I was about 11. It was tough to plan as she was a sahm with no independent finances. Dad made lots of promises and mum returned. He broke all the promises. Mum didn't try and leave again. He finally left when I was an adult.