It wasn't an argument but DH has denied saying something that he definitely said (I know he said it because I picked him up on it straight away). He used to do it a lot but this is the first time in quite a while. I don't get why he does it, especially as it wasn't an argument but a discussion & it didn't put him in the wrong to say it.
To explain - DD can get quite physical with DH & I sometimes think he isn't firm enough with her when he tells her to stop. So I raised the subject & said that I wasn't sure she knew that he was serious & he said " There's no need to shout or get cross with her".I hadn't mentioned those words so immediately said that wasn't what I meant. Just after that he denied saying it! He then said that we both deny we've said stuff. Well, I must admit that I sometimes can't remember what I've said in anger but this was a calm discussion & he was denying it straight away rather than much later on. What was the point? He perhaps saw what I was saying as criticism but I want DD to know that certain behaviours aren't acceptable (DH & I both do & have talked about all this at length).
Later he told me I was making too much of it & it didn't really matter who said what. I guess in the grand scheme of things what matters is how we sort DD's behaviour but I can't seem to get past this denial. I wish I could record him! Any thoughts & does anyone else's OH do this? ( I really don't think it's gaslighting as such because it doesn't make me think I'm going crazy but it is very frustrating)