Online dating!!

[Kokeshi80]

Ok so, almost a year ago, I started chatting to a guy on an online dating site, he was on there as he was undercover to catch out his best mates wife, We caught each other's eye and got chatting and there was a spark, he was honest and open from the start mentioned he is not looking for anything from here as he hasn't time as busy studying and only on there to help his best mate out.
We got chatting some more and had a lot in common. He then messaged and said that his work was done he found his friends wife and he is coming off the dating site and could he have my number to carry on chatting. So I gladly gave it.
So cut a long story short, we have been chatting to each other every other day or week, for the last 10mths. He has recently said he said he really likes me and trusts me and feels comfortable that we can be so open with each other, he has in the past couple of weeks shown his flirty side after months of us chatting and getting to know each other, he is a very busy guy and has lots of studying and courses to complete so he can meet his goals for his life job, which he has told me about, but over the last couple of weeks we have just got a bit naughty via messaging and phone calls.
Now my question is, based on past experiences with these shitty dating sites, I have learnt guys are only after one thing, but this dude feels different, it's been a long time coming to our flirty moments, am I wasting my time in pursuing anything from this or shall I just ride with it and see what happens?

It does sound a bit catfish I'm afraid op. I hope not for your sake. Youve invested a lot of time and emotion into this.

"he was on there as he was undercover to catch out his best mates wife"

I think that's probably the worst lie I've ever come across to do with online dating !

It's one of 2, partenered up and likes the secrecy, gives him a buzz or a scammer. Sorry op

At least he didn't say he was a soldier, even though the mentioning of being there 'undercover' seems quite feeble.

I've just - in another tab on my web browser - finished reading an article about women being scammed by guys or people who portray themselves as 'soldiers' and trick the women into sending them money. In the article it says one woman had lost about £100,000 (!!!) in such a scam.

As for me, I haven't got much experience in dating sites at all, only that old site friendsreunited actually, which wasn't quite a dating site as I recall it, more like a school and friends reunion site, but sure enough I bumped into - lo and behold - someone who claimed to be a soldier. (In all honesty I felt quite sceptical about that fact, but then much much later I by accident spotted his name being rolled out on a Facebook RIP site for British troupers so it might well have been the real deal, but I'm not sure and will never find out.)

But in your case, who knows? Why would anybody be 'undercover' on a site in order to search for a 'friends wife'? It seems totally illogical. Is he a private eye? And you've been chatting for ten months without meeting or seeing the person in question IRL? I suppose it could happen if it's long distance, a penpal so to speak. What do you mean by 'naughty'? As for me, I personally prefer trying not to say or send anything that I'd feel uncomfortable being read by my /indeed now deceased/ granny, also known as the tabloid test (story published on first page of tabloid, read by relatives and family). Well, you get the picture.