Hi, I am a regular lurker but don't really post, am hoping it is ok to ask a question about something I am struggling to get my head around. I spend enough time offloading on friends in real life and would like some impartial advice please!
I separated from my emotionally abusive, controlling ex at Christmas after a really nasty couple of years. All the usual issues with these kind of people, no emotional support from him, no practical support with our young kids, his alcohol issues, threatened violence etc.
Anyway, leaving was 100% right thing to do, and one friend in particular was very keen for me to leave him, actually pushed me to actually go in the end etc. Her and her husband witnessed more of what went on than anyone else and were horrified by how he behaved.
Her husband works for my ex, which I appreciate complicates things. Whilst she was initially very supportive her contact became less and less frequent. This started to play on my mind so I asked her if it was now a problem for her to be friends with me and she said that yes, she was finding it awkward actually and didn't want me to talk about the ex to her if we did meet up.
I understand that it's awkward for people in the middle, and actually I had never said anything to her that I wasn't happy to be repeated to my ex. However I now hear that her and her husband regularly hang out with my ex, and I am 99% sure the ex will be talking to them about me.
I'm not really sure what I'm posting, but am I wrong to feel hurt that she seems to prefer to stay in contact with him than me, especially considering what she knows about how he treated me?