I've done it, finally told H I want a divorce.

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After months of trying to make it work after his infidelity, I've finally told H I'm filing for divorce.

It was awful, one of the most scariest things I've ever done. Not scary because I'm not sure if it's right but scary because the future now looks very bleak.

We have 2DS aged 9 and 6 and I don't work. My eldest has mild autism and is a daddy's boy so I really hope it doesn't effect him badly. I need to get a job but nothing out there.

How am I going to support me and my boys?

Please tell me it will all be ok.

It will be ok. You need to speak to the benefit s people and find out what you're entitled to. I've been there, it feels a bit overwhelming at first, but in the long run you'll feel so much better and the kids will notice this. In the meantime

You will be ok, I was in the same position, just not married. My son also has autism. Do you get disability living allowance for him? And if you do, do you get carers allowance?

You will be fine, it's scary but incredibly brave. Concentrate on you and your kids only, give them all your love and honestly you can't go wrong xx

Thanks for the replies and kind words.

bitzy yes I get both DLA and carers allowance.

Solicitor booked for Tuesday, it all seems so real now.

Do you have access to your partners pay slips, pension plans, savings? Photocopy them now.

You can use the information about his wages to calculate how much child maintenance your children will be entitled to.

Did he think you'd never leave him because of your son and having no job? Did he think you were going to put up with whatever treatment he decided to dish out, because you had no choice?

If so, you just showed him.

Good on you, girl.

Get on the internet and use a benefits calculator, then apply for everything you're entitled to. Tax credits took 8 weeks to be processed which meant we were tight for various back to school things and I had to ask for extensions on paying for activities.
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