Essbee - How are things going??

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Just wanted to know if you are ok and how things are going with regards to the mediation and keeping the house??

I presume that you have spoken to a soliciotr after your post saying you are dealing with Income Needs and wondered what they said??

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Not bad - just got to wait to see what x2b's solicitor says about how we are going to proceed - I have asked him for a certain amount (only half of the equity on the house and he nearly swallowed his tongue!! and he said he would think about it - everyone thinks I am being terribly charitable but to be honest I just want this all over with so I can go on maternity leave and have my debts paid off and invest some money in DPs house.

Am going to solicitors on Monday to go through all my financial stuff and hopefully she will shed a bit more light on things.

Glad that the ADs are kicking in and you feel better - don;t get the house signed over if you can;t afford the mortgage though!! - Have you looked on Ondivorce??

They are arseholes aren't they to them lots of it is about money!! - there's me paying loads in CM fees and paying for holidays and everything for DD and he has jacked in his job and has been at home for the last month waiting for his new job to start - mind you not all bad news - the new job is much better so I guess informing the CSA when he starts will be sweet revenge!!

He did say to me the other day though that he can;t be meeting the mortgage payments forever and so is putting the house on the mortgage and he actually sounded like he wanted me to contribute or something?? - Cheeky Bugger can still afoord to go out drinking and play golf each weekend though!!

Esbee, quite fed up and slightly (actually very) drunk. Think xbh tried to access my account details as I have had a letter from my bank giving me details of my balance which I didn't ask for. Decided to go to court regarding finance rather than mediation but now worried that he might make life even more difficult for me regarding access etc. Don't trust him at all. He suggested that we split everything 50/50 but hang on there are three of us and one of him! How are you getting on? Would be good to speak to someone who is going through the same thing.

Sorry, I should probably shut up as I've had too much wine.

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Oohhh glad to see that you are ok and you shouldn;t have any sympathy for x - he will see just what he is up against and how much he has to provide qwhen you fill inthe Form E and list all of your needs - mine were long and added up to about 1300 but yours will be more as mine were split with DP - make sure you put down about childcare that you will need in order to work to lay the mortgage too!!

We are swapping next week hopefully - I have left it all in the hands of my solicitor who has been great - although we did get to the stage of threatening to out a penal order on him to make him reply to things as he or his solicitor was just ignoring all the letters we were sending to them - certainly put a rocket up his arse when he realised he would have to pay for my costs too if he did not reply and give us the info we were asking for!!

He also thought that he could just sell the house and keep the money in a seperate account after paying off everything he needed to (conveyancing etc.) until I informed him that when he sold the house the money would be held by the conveyancing solicitor until our divorce was sorted and then it would be split - he was sooo cross with me - he just thought he would be able to sort that side of things out and now the power is not his!!! Hehehehehehe.

Have decided that if he is unreasonable we will send him a calderbank letter so if he drags me through court he will end up paying my costs too!! - Hoorah I am finally getting my own back and hurting him in the only way that I know to him makes a difference!!

Anyway - we will have to meet up when I get back from hols - am of to Italy for 2 weeks on Saturday - how about the next weekend after that that I have DD??

hi essbee, sorry to hijack but i didnt know where else to post this. just wanted to thank you for the chat we had on saturday night. hope you are ok, much love xx

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