Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

BFs Apprenticeship (Am i being too naggy or is he just lazy?)

9 replies

Hollie96x · 12/09/2017 14:39

My bf is currently doing an apprenticeship (the apprenticeship is a year and a half long) he was scheduled to finish in July but 2 months later he still hasnt finished the apprenticeship, when he has finished the apprenticeship he will be getting a more higher wage. he works Monday- Friday and DID get 2 afternoons a week plus any time at home to do the work but about a month ago his assessor did the signing off forms with him which gave him ANOTHER finishing date which he still failed to do. so he now doesnt get the time at work to do the work (as he should have been finished so now hes supposed to do it in his own time). he keeps saying to me that he cant wait for all this to be over and then he can get his higher wage but he doesnt seem to be getting any further forward to finishing, he keeps saying that he doesnt have that much left to do and that he shoud be finished by the weekend(whatever weekend it would be that week- hope that makes sense) but it gets to that time and he still isnt finished so he has to contact his assessor to ask for a time extension! i keep saying to him that he needs to spend a weekend just getting the work done otherwise he will never finish but he chooses to either play on his xbox,phone or going out with his friends. the other night he was doing his work on his laptop and i turned around to speak to him and i just see him on his phone watching youtube videos! i said to him this is why you havnt finished your work because you get so distracted by your phone and he just ignored me. it makes me abit angry because he keeps saying to me how he cant wait to get the work over and done with etc but he doesnt help himself when all he does it go on his phone when he could be getting the work done ! this has been going on for 2 months its getting abit of a joke now!

i hope this made sense it was hard to explain lol!

OP posts:
forumdonkey · 12/09/2017 15:04

Is this the bf who was ignoring you when you told him you were pregnant?

Hollie96x · 12/09/2017 15:50

no

OP posts:
TeenTimesTwo · 12/09/2017 15:55

How old is he?

To be honest this lack of get up and go would put me off someone. Imagine in the future having to nag them to get anything done in a reasonable time frame and getting frustrated by it.

You sound way more mature than him.

Hollie96x · 12/09/2017 16:41

Hes 21, as the relationship has gone on he has got more lazy i have picked him up on this but he doesnt really say much.

OP posts:
Prictoriafeckam · 12/09/2017 16:49

This is not shaping up well, OP. I have this with my teenaged daughter and homework and it is worrying.

MustBeDueSomeBetterFeet · 12/09/2017 16:50

There seem to be two key issues with the relationship.

One is motivation: you have it, he doesn't. How will that work long term in your relationship if he has no 'get up and go'?

The other is communication: he tells you what you want to hear, rather than explaining what the real issue is here.

The fact he's playing Xbox or on his phone rather than working and earning money speaks volumes about his mentality. If you're willing to wait around for him to grow up, then fine, but unless you can work out what's about the bottom of the above issues, it seems you're basically incompatible.

AlternativeTentacle · 12/09/2017 16:55

Lazy and tight. What a catch.

Thefutureisbright2017 · 12/09/2017 17:47

I'd ignore it from now on, however much it grates. Make no reference to it and just 'hmm' if he mentions it.
On another note he doesnt sound like he's shaping up to be much of a catch Hmm

Ellisandra · 12/09/2017 17:51

Is the remaining work too hard for him and he won't admit it?
I'm clutching at straws here.
He's sounds like a lazy loser. Why do you fancy him?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page