How can I numb the pain of my impending divorce?

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It's really starting to hit me now. I know that my life is over. Also that all the advice is to feel the pain, but I would rather not so any advice as to how to minimise it will be gratefully accepted. Genuinely. So far have come up with, become a workaholic, a clean/neat obsessive type person, erm that's all. Drinking myself into oblivion is out, as is loads of dating as I don't want anyone else and anyway I feel ancient.

Counselling?

Your life isn't over.

No idea OP
I have been on mn for four years and don't know how to start a thread otherwise I would have asked the same question tonight. 💐 Hope you're ok

Why are you getting divorced? There must be good reasons.

Your life is not over, get a grip. One phase of your life is over and another beginning. You can make this next phase amazing. My dh left for a younger woman - the whole "soulmate" fantasy - after being with me for 25yrs. It was bloody hard for my dc to deal with, but we've all come through it, all now on good terms with the exH.

Look at what you want your future to be and make the choices to get you there.

As for feeling ancient - I'm in my 60's, exH left when I was late 50's - ancient is about 20yrs older than whatever my current age is!

Follow your interests, find new passions - there's a whole world of possibility out there!

These are the small things I am doing to get by during my divorce process:

1. Exercise - I've taken up yoga properly- for stress relief and fitness. Good to have a sense of accomplishment in one area of life
2. Scheduled a couple of days where stbxh takes the kids out and I allow myself a sofa and pyjamas day. I am so knackered.
3. Got into a couple of long running boxsets and book series so I can fill my mind up when the internal thoughts get too much. Also silly games on the tablet. Hours can go by without me thinking too much!
4. Eat my favourite food.
5. Be really organised at work. So I still feel I am competent there.
6. Channel some of my feelings into making arrangements -mortgage, paperwork, budget planning etc.
7. When all else fails, allow myself some really good dwelling time after the kids are in bed when I just let myself be really negative. I'm in a shit situation that I didn't expect, after all.
8. See the GP if it feels unmanageable. I had depression previously so I hit this button quite quickly.

Sorry don't know how helpful this is without knowing your situation better but take it easy on yourself if you can. You don't have to sort out your whole future right now, just one day at a time.