Struggling with the way dh talks to me

[CockPissPigeon]

For a while now I've felt that a lot of the thing dh says to me make me feel, not mad exactly, but a bit forgetful. I've only noticed this in the last few months. It seems to have totally wrong footed me and it's hard to explain.

Here is the latest example. Dh goes to put the bin out and replaces it with another one. I say 'ooh that reminds me I need to put bin bags on the shopping list because that's the last one left.'
Dh replies 'no it's not, there's loads left.'
I say 'are you sure? That's odd I definitely remember there only being one left when I changed the bin the other day.'
Dh says 'well I'm looking at them right now and it looks like a whole roll and a spare one.'
Fair enough, but it bothers me for a few hours as I remember there only being one left. I look in the cupboard and sure enough there's two full rolls. But from the shop dh stops at on way home from work, not the one I do the big shop at. I ask dh why he didn't just tell me he'd bought two more rolls. He looks at me as if I'm bonkers and says I hadn't asked him if he'd bought new ones, just if there are any left.

I know it's a small thing, but it is constantly things like this. Is that a normal way to discuss a completely inane thing? It's crazy but I don't really speak to many people other than dh and I'm starting to feel as if I'm going mad.

I still suggest the book, and may be starting to keep notes about things that happen so later you have a record for your own mind. He is messing with your head, and keeping things straight with a partner who wants to make them crazy is difficult.

You could also start working on your exit plan even though you feel it is a long way away.

Peace

I'm just fed up tbh. I had a breakdown last Christmas and my mental health is still very fragile. He can have an affair, whatever, I can deal with that. But he's trying to make a woman on the edge of madness feel more mad - if he's doing it on purpose that it.

I'm in charge of his dc's 12 hours a day. It just seems bonkers of him to try and make me feel more unstable.

I suspect that he is a bit of a sadist and enjoys messing with your head and treating you badly. It gives him a sense of power, and makes him feel better about himself.

Start writing everything down that he says. You could set up a new email and email them all to yourself. You're hopefully going to end up getting away from him and you can use this as a record. Not good for your DCs to see him treating you like this.

I also thought he might be on the autism spectrum but if he is only like this with you it sounds much more sinister.