I posted a while ago about seeing someone for a reasonably long time, to find out he was in fact married and living with his wife and she had no idea. we found out at the same because of a third party (dont want to go into too much detail).
anyway, literally the day i found out, i ended things with him and told him i never wanted to see him again. she spoke to me briefly and was obviously cold with me (i didnt expect flowers!!!), and said maybe in a few weeks we would meet up, and shed let me know. this was months back and i havent heard from her, and i have no knowledge as to whether they are still together - the last thing she said to me was that she would divorce him. but i genuinely have zero interest in whether that is the case as i really and truly despise the man.
but recently i have started hating myself for not telling her everything. she knew bits when we had the brief one and only chat as mentioned above, but at the time i was in shock, and i feel like an idiot saying this, but i didnt know how much to tell her - i was confused and hurt and knew that the more i said the worse it would be for her, and in that instance i blamed myself, though now i know that he was entirely to blame for living two lives and damaging both me and her. i feel angry and i know he will have lied to her, and still will be if he is with her. when she mentioned coffee i said if she ever wanted to ask me about anythng i would always make time for her - so she knew she could do that, she just hasnt.
i guess im just wondering why? does she not want the truth? will she ever want it? i genuinely do not care one bit if she stayed with him (though obviously i think it would be a huge mistake on her part!!), but i guess i feel as if her silence means she blames me. and that makes me so angry, because had i known anything about her, i would never ever have been involved with him. i also think if i were her, i would want every detail.