Upsetting Birthday

[SallyLouise75]

Hi, today is my daughter 20th birthday and I'm so upset as this is the first of her birthdays that her dad hasn't been here (he left three months ago). It was my birthday last week and although I was sad didn't feel this upset. I just keep thinking of where WE were 20 years ago and how much he loved me. It's so hard to not contact him and tell him I miss him and want him back even though he says he has feelings for someone else. It would be easier if he lived closer and I could go and see him and try and get him back. How do I move on from this? I'm getting out as much as I can but today I'm so sad.

Hi, it sounds really sad and difficult. How is your daughter doing today? I think the main thing to do is keep busy and distract yourself from your ex DH. It must hurt though. Are there things you can do to help boost your confidence and move on? I know it sounds simplistic but I think distraction and getting your self confidence back is the key. I don't think contacting him would help, focus on your own life and be kind to yourself xxx

Hi, both my Dc's seem fine, they are so supportive and I'm so lucky. They are in touch with him through text. I'm trying to be strong for them but just want him home (sound so sad). Trying to build my self confidence and getting out as much as I can. It's so hard after 22 years together. Thanks for listening xx

Sounds like they're a real credit to you. I am glad they're so supportive. Big hug