Hope someone can offer advice,
Husband left 1.5 years ago, serial philanderer / social butterfly wanted to shed responsibility etc.
I've had very poor health for the past 5 years - neurological problems (brain haemorrhage) and recently severe urological problem. My body caved in most likely due to the stress of him being responsible for causing a most horrific burns accident (DD then 1, now scarred for life) and my discovering affairs in the plural.
I recently had e coli infection that became antibiotic resistant and was told could lead to sepsis / renal failure. Throughout, he was demanding that we instantly divorce and that I sell up our house (which my parents mostly paid for) and move into a flat with my 2 DC (11 and 9)
We came to an agreement a couple of months ago because he was pressuring me so much, that I'd give him my lifetime savings, he'd whittle down maintenance to 1/3 of his salary - and the house would be put into my name. Over the summer, I took my kids away, really relaxed and bladder felt better. I realised I didn't want to put myself into a vulnerable position - ie broke now but potentially far better off in the future.
So I told him I needed to fully recover (my solicitor said he's bullying, that I didn't have to do anything at all esp if ill, but that court could insist we split everything 50/50.
I told him 2 days ago that I couldn't give him my savings and that when DC older, we'd have to settle up then.
So he took my son out yesterday, and told him that now that mummy is stalling, it's time for him to toughen up and really make mummy suffer now. Planned to tell DD same thing today.
As if I haven't already suffered! I've been raising two children as I broken woman. I have no family, no support network, and I'm ill. DD who's 9 was shaking with fear last night. What if you die mummy? Ds asked asked if he should call childline. So heartbreaking. He's repeatedly called me a Witch, accused me of poisoning the kids against him and called me a c**t repeatedly in front of them.
Where on earth do I go from here? I'm genuinely ill, and beginning to wonder if I'll actually survive this.
Speaking to solicitor on Tuesday but wary, she's a very young girl. Clever, but not sure how experienced.
Thank you