Is this too soon?

[lottieandmia]

I've had countless nightmare relationships and had stopped dating for over a year. But in the last few months I've met someone I really like and I have not seen any red flags and yet I'm very attracted to him. I've started to employ a new tactic where if someone does anything questionable I just cut them off. Which I have to do because I have AS. The only thing that concerns me is that he broke up with a long term girlfriend only 9 months ago and says he's over it now but he was with her for a long time so I don't want to get in too deep if he's on the rebound. He seems to really like me though.

I think you should carry on and enjoy the relationship. Keep your eyes open, but don't judge him only based on his past relationship. Perhaps things were over for him long before the breakup was official.

9 months is OK I think. By the time I left my long term relationship I was already over it.

My boyfriend split with his girlfriend and got together with me about 3 months later and that was a long relationship too. 9 months is enough time, if he feels ready don't worry about it.

I got together with my DH three weeks after he and his XW separated. I did wonder a bit whether I was a rebound but after over 5 years together I'm pretty sure I'm not . I think different people are ready for things at different times.

Ok that's good to know. He said he was upset when the relationship ended but that he had seen it coming. I think he misses his exes family too.