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Should i give this guy another chance?

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alazuli · 09/09/2017 20:20

So I started talking to a guy on one of the dating apps. He's the most promising guy I've spoken to in ages - similar interests, looks handsome, has his own place and lives 10 mins away from me (I'm in London so this is not that common).

We messaged for ages one night so I asked if he wanted to meet for a drink as I'm a big believer of meeting up quickly to see if there's any chemistry. He said he had a crazy week coming up and then was off on holiday. Fair enough. During that week he was still messaging me. He got back in touch a week after he came back from his holiday. Again I suggested a drink. We were supposed to meet Friday. Thursday he says can we rearrange he needs to work late. I suggest Saturday. He agrees. Today he gets in touch to ask if we can meet tomorrow.

Argghhh. I said I was busy (I'm not) because I was so annoyed. He suggested next week. Time to cut things off?

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alazuli · 15/09/2017 11:36

Aridane - I did give him another chance by meeting up with him but he's gone AWOL since.

I thought there was a spark. I really did. How did I get it so wrong?

Must. Resist. Texting. Him.

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Worriedrose · 15/09/2017 11:49

Don't text him! You'll have forgotten this by next month and then the month after you'll think thank god I didn't end up with someone so discourteous!

HotNatured · 15/09/2017 13:03

Don't even think about texting him!

SleepFreeZone · 15/09/2017 13:13

Oh god don't text him as before you know it you'll be in a FWB situation and he'll be calling the shots.

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alazuli · 15/09/2017 13:48

Thanks for the support. This is what I need to hear!

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hellsbellsmelons · 15/09/2017 17:25

When did you meet for a drink?
The fact he doesn't seem to be able to do weekends suggests he's involved with someone else!
And block him so you aren't tempted.
It happens.
You think there might be something there and they don't.
Works both ways as I'm sure you are aware.

Oakleygirl · 15/09/2017 18:54

Alazuli, it sounds like he's hedging his bets to be honest. Maybe meeting a few OLD prospects before he chooses! Maybe this one is not for you as I think he would drive you mad in the long run. Not worth the stress.

Cricrichan · 15/09/2017 20:44

The guy cancelled 3 times. Big nope. Forget him.

Oakleygirl · 15/09/2017 21:43

I think he may cause you lots of angst if you keep in touch with him, try to look at it like you've had a lucky escape.

Chocolatefudgecake100 · 15/09/2017 22:24

One more chance op he sounds nervous so stalling tbh

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alazuli · 16/09/2017 19:48

hellsbellsmelons - we met on Monday so who knows!

Oakleygirl - I think you're right. He's probably just going on lots of dates and seeing what his options are. I guess I've been on dates where the other person has been lovely but I just haven't been feeling it either.

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TurnipCake · 16/09/2017 19:53

Cut your losses, this guy is messing around.

Even if he was a prince with a diamond dick, do you want to be running around someone as flaky as that?

FrogsLegs31 · 16/09/2017 19:57

He's really not that into you at all. Sorry.

You are really over invested in him for someone who you only managed to meet up with once. Do not communicate with him again it is not going to be good for you.

TurquoiseShine · 16/09/2017 21:03

a prince with a diamond dick

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