He wouldn't let me look at his phone.

[Hefuckingknowsiknow]

There is a back story of small stuff that I've over looked over the years.

But maybe around a year ago he started going casino once in a while which quickly turned in to every Friday night till 3-4 am, once he got in bed and gave me a cuddle when he got in and I had this very strong feeling that he'd done something. Like he was guilty. Saying he loved me.

A couple of months ago his best mates girlfriend tried to black mail him over going to see prostitutes. He went to great lengths to 'prove' her wrong but he never really did. And I always has a little voice saying it was true.

He's always on my phone. His is locked. Carries it every where.

Starting going to his brothers till 12am for various reasons. When he has just got in I asked to check his phone he said no. Told me I was controlling,that I've not wanted to be with him for past 18 months (news to me as we've just had a baby) told him to get out and he did.

It's over I know there was shit on his phone he didn't want me to see and I'm pretty much screwed tbh. Financially havnt got a leg to stand on.

doesn't sound great OP, trust your instinct and put yourself and your baby first. Xx

Instinct is a weird thing isn't it

He's up to no good. Sorry.

Money isn't everything and there is ALWAYS a path to freedom. You just need to find it.

I know sandy

Aqua I know it's just a shitter finding it.

I'm getting accused of fancying people now 😒

My ex used to come home early hours all lovely dovey. Secretive with his phone. Turns out he'd been to massage parlours with his vile friend. Sorry OP

Feel absolutely sick this morning. What the fuck has he done ?

I think his bf girlfriend was not blackmailing him! What was she looking to gain when saying this?

I'm so sorry. :( What a horrible thing, and at such a horrible time. Oh they can be such wretched monsters. I'm so very sorry.

"I'm getting accused of fancying people now" Ooh the prick!

You know, I've found, without fail, that when they start throwing out those baseless accusations, they're the one cheating, and the more adamant they are, the more they're screwing around.

What's that about? Is it some kind of thought process that if they can do it so easily then it must be easy for everyone? Is it an attempt to distract us from their cheating by forcing us to defend ourselves?

mustang she basically text me at the same time asking me to check his phone. During this there was an issue of her cheating with some one else. Dp was basically snooping about and about to ask the bloke in question. She basically sent him a message saying 'if you don't back off I'll tell heknows about you spending money on 'brass'

So she messaged me to check his phone and sent him a message saying that so is see it

Darling he sounds like a horror and it's unlikely his behaviour will change

What do you want to do? Can you leave? Stay with family for a while? Is it a joint rental etc?

God they sound like a right pair. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Sometimes it's best not to know all the details as it doesn't give you any closure in the end. Get yourself down to the local sexual health clinic asap and dw what they think, they will absolutely believe you when you say your partner has been sleeping about and want tested. They won't ask though but I find most people want to explain and off load a bit.

jeux it's his house although he won't push me to leave. Literally not got any income of my own as he is the one that's owns the businesses.

Every one thinks he is amazing but I've notice for a while now there is a side to him I don't know. I bet he is a sleazy creep

Actually was trying to start some weird random argument within the argument about me fancying my mate bloke which is completely unfounded and bizzare, finishing with 'go and be with * '

"I'm getting accused of fancying people now"

Thats him trying to deflect/project his shittyness onto you, he's also gas lighting you...making you out to be the one that's up to no good.