Anyone gone back to there kids dad?

[Winelover93]

Me and my sons dad split up early in my pregnancy he met someone else and she moved into our shared house.

They was together a year and split up in June since then he's made more effort with our son and we've spent s few nights together as s family which was nice.

Now he's really keen to try again and keeps asking me why I don't care about him anymore. He obviously hurt me and i've moved on and got on with my life and have been dating other people (not gone anywhere)

Would I be stupid to give it another go? I'd want to take it really slow and just see how it goes.

Has anyone got back with there kids dad and it worked out? Xx

I did. It was a big mistake and I tried for another 4.5 years even though I knew pretty much straight away that I'd done the wrong thing but I felt like I had to make it work for my son. We've been apart for 8 months now and I am much happier.
Why did you split up? Did he leave you for her? I would be very wary if I were you...

Well I fell pregnant and he just changed wasn't as affectionate he seemed like he hated me.
Then we started to argue, well I eventually upped and left because I was just sick of it.
He was messaging her when we was together I think then two weeks after they put it all over Facebook.

I'd feel a bit embarrassed because it was such a messy breakup and people know how badly he treated me.

Be thankful you got out when you did and don't go back. You haven't mentioned any effort he's made to explain his previous behaviour or apologise for it. Do you want more children? What if he acts like he hates you again during a second pregnancy? Can you trust him? What makes you think he has changed?

Don't do it. Leopards don't change their spots. You are his back up plan. Fuck that! You deserve someone who picks you as their first choice, not someone who thinks you're the easy option to fall back on because his fancy woman didn't work out.

Seriously, you deserve better.

It would be a really bad idea. He probably needs money or affection, so is crawling back: he is not going to be a good partner to you.

I did this. It was a terrible idea!

My advice is to write down all the things he has done to hurt you. Would you like your child to be treated this way in the future? You need to respect yourself and not get into a relationship with someone who does not respect you and has treated you horrendously.

He may try to guilt trip you into being with him: stand your ground! Your child can still see him without him being your partner.

"I'd feel a bit embarrassed because it was such a messy breakup and people know how badly he treated me"

Don't give chances to him. He doesn't deserve it. Tell him you have moved on and there is no way back.